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36-40,
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writes:There's a girl I'm absolutely crazy about and this isn't an infatuation thing. I've been absolutely crazy for her for over a year. When I first felt that way, I told her straight up. She was hesitant mainly because she had already been seeing a guy for a while off and on. Both she and I chatted quite a bit and dated other people and continued to do so after we graduated from college and moved away from each other. I visited her once, as really good friends, and listened to her describe her ideal guy; she could have been describing me. I called her out on that and as we talked she acknowledged that she would want something with me but gave me three reasons for us not being together: 1, we're separated by distance and she really values having a guy physically there for her; 2, she says she's afraid of losing our friendship; and 3, she, unlike me, has really not dated or had much experience with many others and feels she needs to "experience what's out there."So now, 9 months later, she's dated and messed around, i've dated and slept around, and it doesn't matter what I do she's still the one I want.(what's that saying? "If you think she's the one, sleep with every girl possible, if she's still the one, then it's true"? ... yeah done that...)Even her dad's telling her that he approves of me and she should be with me. (she only told me that when she was drunk, but I figured it would happen since I made a strong impression on the parents)What am I supposed to do? She's likely going to grad school somewhere else a good distance away from me 18 months from now and I could be in a good position to relocate around that same time. Is it wrong for me to move close to her if she's willing to try to make it work? That's a serious move to make for something uncertain...If staying close friends with her makes finding another girl impossible, should I cut off my friendship with her?Do I have any other options?
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reader, forbiddenlove1996 +, writes (10 May 2009):
 ask her about it, most woman like honesty so if you tell her how you feel and tell her that your willing to be there for her phisyclly mentaly whatever she wants she's likely to say that she would be willing.
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reader, just-another-concerned-girl +, writes (10 May 2009):
 Look before you even decide to move close to her you need to talk to her tell her that if she does want a relationship with you she should tell you now so that you are sure that moving close to her is the right decision but if she says no then just move on u dont have to stop being her friend just stop concentrating all of your time on her and look around or do some online dating(i'm just saying) well good luck!
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