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writes:I am in a 5 year relationship and starting to have serious doubts about it. I'm not sure if I want it anymore, and pressures are growing around marriage, mortgage and children. There's no apparent reason as to why I'm feeling this way... nothing specific has caused this feeling of distance. I don't know what to do, or where to turn to try and figure out all of this.Any advice would be hugely appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2019): Take a break for a while and be by yourself,he may move on but thats okay, you don't have kids and some people don't want all that responsibility. Its normal, better to have came to a point now then too go along with his dreams. Your dreams shouldnt be put on hold for someone else's idea of life,
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2019): Where is the pressure coming from, his or your parents? Is it your biological-clock? Is he showing no signs he wants what you want? All of the above?
You're in that ineffable 3-5 year time-period in a relationship. The make-it or break-it phase. It's showing no progress, and he's dragging his feet; or you've got cold-feet, and maybe your feel like you're wasting your time? Missing-out on life? Invested too much, and receiving no dividends from your investment?
If he ain't "the one"...time to introspect and make up your mind. Time is precious and it doesn't stand-still, girlfriend! If the title "husband" feels cringy when applied to his name, bail out now! In any case, he needs to know what you're feeling.
Have you reached all your goals? Was anything put on-hold for the sake of love? Has there been any growth or movement in the past 5 years? Then you and he need to talk!
I'm going to do some more guessing. Are finances suitable to move to the next step? Was either of you married before? Does he have any kids from another relationship?
Well, I guess he hasn't put a ring on it, and you've lost hope. Is it that you look at him, and you just feel...NO! No no no...not this guy? I can't...I just can't! I can't see "this" in another five years?
Then, make a decision and do what's best for you. If the future look bleak, don't waste anymore precious time.
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