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writes:I'm married and not in love with my husband. I've been with my husband for 12 years.I have been in love with another guy every sense my teenage years. The catch is he is a 5th cousin. I've tried to keep it a serect even from him but I told him and we have been seeing one another.I'm 38 and he is 44.I try and fight the feelings but I can't. I know there is going to be a mess from all of this. I want to divorce my husband because I'm not happy and have not been for a long time in my marriage. Our family is going to freak out if they find out about me and my cousin. What should I do? Our family's are very well respected in our community.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2009): I couldn't agree more than with LVW and theboy. Divorce now, happy later. It really is as simple as that. You're only on this earth once, it's not a rehearsal for something more wonderful later on. Make the most of the time you have left. In all probability you won't regret one bit of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2009): whoaaaa, this is not about you loving your 5th cousin removed. it is about cheating on your husband. he cheated, you are cheating. what else is there. if you are not committed to your hb then do the only right thing you can.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe is not my uncle,he is a 5th cousin. My husband cheated on me and gave me an STD and I still remained faithful for 7 years after all the heart ache he put me through. There are no children with him. I just don't love him the way a wife should love her husband, I tried to stay in the marriage but I'm just not happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2009): you are not being fair to your husband of 12 years. there is going to be major family crises when your affair is found out. what about your kids? how do you explain this to them. their "uncle" is now their mums bf?? the only right thing left to do is to release your husband. i think he deserves better. what about your cousin, is he married too? if he is then you both are destroying homes. please stop deceiving your hb, there are lots of decent good women who will love him for what he is. so stop stealing his resources and go your seperate way. just becare the wrongs you have meted out to your hb will come back to bite you. so please divorce your husband and stop stealing your hbs life any more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2009): First thing you need to do is leave your husband. If your not happy and havent been you are probley never gonna be. ALSO 5th cousin is not bad at all. i have slept w my first cousin, now thats alittle bad. 5th cousin is not bad and if you are thinking about him and want him. you should do it. do what makes you happy!!
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