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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I dont even know where to start. I met me boyfriend travelling.... he came back to my home country but recently we moved back to aus together to start a new life here. What i didnt tell him though was that i know a guy who also lives here. We lost touch years ago but i never mentioned it to my partner that i knew someone here because i didnt think i'd speak to him. I used to have feelings for this guy but obviously we lived in different countries and life went on. Now this is where i made a very stupid mistake. I got back in touch with this guy via fb since we live pretty near each other now. He's married now. My intentions were innocent to start with i just thought id see what was happening in his life and maybe meet up for a coffee since we are actually in the same country now. I still didnt mention this other guy to my partner because i never before and i knew id get a bad reaction if i blurted it out. So me and my partner are trying to settle into a new country which is tough in itself...and im messaging this other guy. When my boyfriend got a job working away as he couldnt get a local job i met up with him. Nothing happened but we kept meeting and it lead to us having sex. This has happened more than once and i dont make any excuse...i chose to get back in touch with him. Im feeling so messes up right now. I love and miss my partner, we have had our problems hes not a nice drunk and doesnt respect me as much as he should but i thought we were still quite solid. I have never cheated before but now i find myself doing it...i feel like my old feelings for this other guy has resurfaced. The feeling was and is mutual and he has told me. Im not stupid i know sex is a bit part of this but i know emotions are involved on both sides. I'm also aware that only bad is going to come of this....i should stop seeinf him and tell my partner when hes back but it would hurt him. Im feeling like a fool for getting myself in such a situation. I never dreamed of having an affair i always swore id just leave....but im in a different country. I feel numb and lost.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2014): You still have feelings for the ex or you would not have kept this relationship from your BF. I don't think you are that into your BF or you would never have been unfaithful. Its time to walk away from both these relationships as both have no future at least where you will find peace and happiness.
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