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writes:I'm 19 years old and have been with my boyfriend who's 22 for nearly 6 months now. We have a great relationship, we're both very affectionate, loving and caring towards one another and we make each other laugh, in fact ive never been so happy in a relationship before.the only problem is, we'd only been together 2months before i had to start university... so now we're apart alot of the time as my bf works full time back at home.he was the one who suggested we make a go of things and we are managing the whole long distance thing, but im just finding it so so difficult.we make the effort to see each other whenever we can, but when im apart from him i just miss him so much it hurts, i cry alot because i feel i just need a hug off him and i miss just being around him and having fun.We do talk every day, whether it be a text, a phone call or whatever but i just feel this isn't enough, I can't keep feeling this way because I'm worried it might effect our relationship. we say we miss each other all the time, but im a very emotional person and cry on the phone to him alot and for no reason at all can get mad at him for silly things just because im down.I want to find a way to get through this because right now i feel so low and want to make sure that something like this isnt going to ruin our relationship because i dont know how to handle it.Has any one got any suggestions or experienced this for themselves? thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2009): you know how to handle it and you know it. love is sacrifice trust me youl go through it. if i can then you can. and try to see him at least once a month dont see him more or it will be harder i swear cuz i tried it.
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reader, Amity=Friendship  +, writes (18 January 2009):
I am going through a similar situation with my BF, only I have ben dating him for almost 4 years. It's very difficult even when you have a firm foundation built with someone. The best thing that you can do is continue texting and calling, but you might look into getting a webcam. That's what we did and it has been a definite improvement in both of our moods. Writing each other letters is another great way to brighten the day. Just remember that though you are far apart now, when you do finally see each other it will only be that much sweeter.
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (18 January 2009):
 You are already doing the first things I would suggest in terms of talking and texting. The thing is my gut feeling is it wont effect your relationship as such; more effect your wider life.
You have to try (and yes I do know from personal experience how hard this is) that although you are physically apart you are still together in the deeper more meaningful way. Are you making friends at Uni?? If you could make some friends then that would perhaps help because I would imagine it is possible that missing him is being made worse by your own lonliness and isolation in the current situation and it's a viscious circle.
If you still cant deal with it then I think its time to explore something radical; like discussing how you can practically make it so you are closer together. Good luck :)
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