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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My problem is about my body... I'm 19 and I'm not overweight or fat, I'm a size 10 on top and 12 on bottom and no one has ever said anything bad or offensive about my weight that would make me feel self conscious, however, I really am.im in my fourth serious relationship and because i always know guys well and trust them before having sex i havent had a problem with it. even now, me and my boyfriend have the most amazing sex ever, my body worries dont effect that at all, but stupidly i worry about my body the rest of the time. i dont like my boyfriend seeing me get dressed in the morning (even though hes seen me naked loads of times) i just get really embarressed because i hate my body, i ask him to turn away, and although he never understands why, he does.he suggested going swimming the other day, but i said no, firstly because i hate the thought of being in a bikini in front of other people, but also because i worry my bf might think i look horrible. anyone that knows us would say i was being stupid, he does love me and always compliments the way i look and says im pretty/sexy etc, but i cant get these worries out of my head and its getting me down.we're wanting to go on holiday in the summer, but again, im worried il ruin things by being so self conscious.it doesnt help that his ex was, well... not overweight, but bigger than me, yet she was so so confident and didnt mind showing her body off, even though alot of the time it wasnt flattering...im just worried about what he thinks and dont want him to feel hes doing anything to make me feel like this. its just the way i am, but dont know how to stop it
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2009): Hey. I know exactly how you feel, I'm in the same position. I love my boyfriend very much and I know he loves me the same. We do have sex but I can't ever take all my clothes off in front of him bc I'm so self conscience. I just keep trying to tell myself that he says he loves me, then that has to include ALL of me...flaws and all. If he dumped me bc of my body then I dnt need to be with him anyways bc I'd always have to feel insecure like I'm not good enough.
Hope this helps!
Just remember to believe about urself, what you want ur bf to believe.
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reader, Alfi  +, writes (18 January 2009):
 Hmm. you're in quite a pickle. Darling, if no one has ever said anything offensive to you then there cant be anything to worry about. You're boyfriend quite clearly loves you and finds you attractive, dont let this get in the way or it could drive a wedge between you. Try and focus on the things you do like about yourself... for instance you said that you werent over weight and you're good sizes, so thats a start if you can see that. When you look in the mirror acknowledge the fact that you are happy with what size you are. Remember your partner is there to help you not shoot you down.
Try and face these fears now or else it may shadow the rest of your life. Let your partner help you, im sure he would be happy to, you're not alone.
there are people out there who would Love to have your body.
Alfi
Good luck
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