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writes:Hi, My question is, is it wrong not to marry a man I have dated for 11 years? We have had our ups and downs and have always gotten back together because of how strong our love was for each other. I was controlled by my ex-husband. My ex cheated on me with another woman. I was always a very easy going person, non-confrontational and just never spoke up. I went along with everything. After being divorced for 13 years, I have lived on my own and loving it. My b/f after 6 months of dating bought a diamond ring. He never gave it to me formally because I was always set dead against marriage. The past few years I have been wearing it to show my commitment to our relationship. I am very happy with this arrangement of just dating each other and living in my own home. Am I selfish in not considering marriage with this man? I know he would marry me in a minute but he knows I am leery in getting married. Why get married? I come andgo as I please. I don't do anything wrong. My home is mine and mine only. I don't need to confer with anyone if I choose not to? He has accepted any decision that I make. Any information would be appreciated.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (24 July 2007):
 Of course you don't have to feel you should marry. In fact that you are so independent probably adds a little spice to your relationship. I wouldn't change a thing. If it ain't broke don't fix it. Have fun!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (24 July 2007):
 If he is fine with this, then you shouldn't worry. I suppose he will not insist in marrying you if you maintain the same level of commitment you have to him.
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