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writes: I dated this girl I really care about. We broke up but we still talk on the phone. She says she can really open up with me she would rather call me than her new boyfriend.I know she still likes me but for some reason she won't get back together with me. I want her back. What do I do???
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (28 July 2006):
 Whatever you do, don't rush things.
You have something with your ex that is very special - the potential for a lifelong relationship. I'll take that any day over a torrid romantic affair that burns out as quickly as it starts.
The two of you could very well be what I call kindred spirits - people that share a profound connection that transcends time and distance. As such you could grow to love each other in a way that makes a romantic relationship possible again. But romance is a mere bonus to what you already have. I warn you though that it sometimes takes years to develop kindred spirit love.
You did the right thing in choosing to maintain a friendship with your ex. Resist the temptation to confess your undying love to her right now. She won't take it well.
As an aside, one of my ex-girlfriends is a kindred spirit. We live in different cities and each have our own families, but whenever we connect it is like no time has passed. We worked at this for a long time - we knew we had a special connection, but as it turns out it was not a romantic one. Now, I have a lifelong relationship with her - it's awesome.
Good luck and take care.
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reader, iluvztinks +, writes (27 July 2006):
I think that she needs to rethink her relationship with her new guy, if she can't open up to him then their relationship wont be as strong as it should be. I think htat she is also finding it hard to pull herself away from you, just try and talk things through with her gradually see how she really feels and think deeply about how you feel too.
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