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writes: Recently I met someone on the net and we seem to have grown to "like each other". We met several weeks ago on the internet...exchanged emails, pictures, and chat almost daily... Getting to know more or less about each other, and when we chat it's fun and great. Prob is that I almost always initiate the conversation, and ask the questions, and if I dont send the first mail, there's no chat.I'm looking for a good friendship, and build it from there. Although I know the net isn't the ideal place I have a feeling that this friendship might have potential, but I'm afraid that I'm coming across as too friendly and eager to have new friend, which I am, but I usual never show it. But this time I feel that I'm making it obvious to a point that I dont want to come across as too cloying.I'm 21 and very mature and ppl's first impression of me is independant, and strong minded, and thru these texts I think I'm looking needy and eager. I see it myself.I really want this friendship to move forward, and if I do all the chatting in the beginning I think it'll get there, but I don't want to look silly, and needy, and desperate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2006): Have you met in person yet? This would be the logical next step - or if not, have you talked on the phone?Online friendships are nice, but not "real" until you actually meet face-to-face. Until then, its only a potential friendship, not an actual one.In any case, my recommendation to you is to ask her about herself, to tell you about her day - without coming across as nosy! - and see how she responds. Be friendly, but be cool. I mean by that, don't put pressure on her to move forward with being friends until she gives you some indication that that is what she wants, too.Good luck!
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