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writes:I recently posted a question concerning my boyfriend. We have been dating for five months. I suffer from clinical depression and have been struggling on sunday and monday a little bit. We were supposed to get together on Friday, but when I called him, he said he needed time to think.I asked if I had done anything wrong and if he was leaving me. He said "I don't think so" He said "I love you" first before we got off of the phone. He told me he'd call me in a few days..probably on Monday.I have yet to hear from him and his phone is turned off. I'm going through severe depressive episodes along with anxiety. I can't eat, sleep or drink anything.I'm confused and lost beyond reason. All of this was so sudden. We were fine. He told me he loved me and that I'd never have to worry about him leaving. he told me this on Monday. Why hasn't he called me yet? I thought maybe he was thinking of a polite way to leave but I have no idea now. I feel as though I'm certain he's going to leave me. I'm paranoid that he won't even call me. I don't know how to react, what to think, or how to cope with this intense pain and confusion. I love him dearly and he has never been hurtful before. I thought that if he doesn't call me tomorrow afternoon, that I would go over there and get an answer myself. I really dont' want to because I don't want to corner him, but at the same time, I deserve answers and I simply cannot handle the emotional stress any longer. The same crap just keeps running through my head. Should I go over there? Should I wait for even more days? I'm just...lost. Please help me before I lose it again. Reply to this Question
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reader, rcn +, writes (23 January 2008):
 You do deserve an answer. I wouldn't wait for even more days. In getting an answer, you need to be willing to accept whatever that answer may be. I can't tell you what it will be, and I don't want to judge. Sometimes guys have issues that come up, where they feel like just being alone. It doesn't meant they're with someone else or intending to hurt anyone, it a way of dealing with the moment.
His answer "I don't think so" threw me off. Generally that sort of questions has a yes or no answer. I don't know what his meaning is behind that, or he has a bunch on his mind that caused a strange answer. If he doesn't call you, find out what's going on. It's much better to know, than to be confused in not knowing.
You also need to take care of your depression and anxiety. Having those are difficult for who suffers from them. They can even play tricks, where a relationship is being used as a way to fulfill something we're personally missing, or in a way "self medication."
I hope everything works out for you. Take care.
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