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writes:Hello, I'm going over my friends house on valentines day who's a boy and I've never met his family. I'm scared of what he is going to do and what we're gonna talk about. Were not dating, just real good friends what do I do if he says;' lets have sex' or try's something like that. He is 17 and I'm only 14 in life he is amazing, if you feel down he'll pick you up.. I just don't know what to do when I get there.. I don't want to be awkward or noisy or rude, I just need some advice I'm fucking bricking it.. I mean we don't even go out for god sake were just good friends I've Known him for about 2 years, but only now have I started to text him and flirt and stuff please help me! Thanks Laura xoxoxox
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2012): "I started to text him and flirt and stuff please help me! "...so are you scared or hopeful? because it sounds like to some degree you're actually wishing this might happen. I don't mean to poo-poo caution to young and vulnerable women, but I find it hard to believe he would introduce you to his family and then sexually assault you in his home on Valentine's day.Rather than worry/or fantasize about how he might try something, I'd figure out how you really feel about this because it's very apparent you're conflicted.1) If you you decide you're too scared of the possibility of any sexual activity, don't go to his house then...BUT I would probably stop flirting with him too. You are sending out messages that understandably might confuse a person. Take some responsibility for how you communicate to people.2) If you decide that you're not scared of sex and you want to try something with him, realize what you're doing is illegal because you're a minor. If you're caught, he could justifiably be arrested. I have a feeling, you don't want that.This might request might fall on deaf ears, but please stop fantasizing about this and be a little more rational and be a little more intentional and responsible when you communicate with people.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (14 February 2012):
 Will his parents, siblings be home?If you're real good friends then why are you so frightened to go over to his house, afraid of moves he could pull? It sounds as if you really don't know this guy as you claim to. I'm with the rest of the aunts. Simply don't go if you're afraid of being in a potential pressuring situation. Especially if you're going over to a home where there is no adults around. That sounds rather shady on his part. HOWEVER, if you do end up going and he tries to pull something..then you need to leave immediately. Call a family member to come get you. Drop this guy as a friend. You are a minor, he's legally an adult consenting to sex. He could go to jail for rape charges if he touches you in a sexual manner.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2012): Seriously, if you are afraid to be alone with him. Then reason, logic would say- dont go to his home. Don't be around him alone.
Invite him to your home with Mom and Dad home or visit him with GFs. If he is truly a good friend- he won't be bothered by your offer to remain FRIENDS ONLY.
If you don't feel safe being he is older then don't flirt and text with him.
You cant play with fire and then say OWIE, I Got Burned!
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