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writes:Hi, Cupids. Me and my girlfriend have been together for about 3 weeks and we were seeing each other for about 2 weeks before that. Everything's going well...Only thing is, I'm going out my mind that I'm not with her right now! I mean, what the heck? It actually hurts, and after just 5 weeks? it sounds cheesy but, what is this I'm feeling? And why so quickly? I just have no idea how to handle this, if it was after a longer time of being together I wouldn't be so confused by it. Does anyone have any ideas what's wrong with me and what to do about it? Any help and advice is more than welcome. Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes you did. Several times lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you q1605. It made me smile reading that...
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (23 May 2010):
 Three weeks is too soon to start worrying whether or not you will fall in love. Take it slow and build the friendship with this girl. You have all the time in the world, so no need to rush it or get clingy. You can keep her interest!
Why not start thinking about really cool dates to take her on. Find out what she's most interested in and plan something romantic. Put all that nervous energy you have into being a better guy (since she makes you feel that way) and just enjoy this relationship.
Don't let past hurt motivate you, because it won't be fair to her or you. Just relax! You're in a good place!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBettyb?? Maybe you misread...everything. I'm in a relationship, NOT a break up. Please try reading the question properly before posting an answer. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks peeps. Though I'm still unsure how to handle it. I don't want to come across as clingy... But at the same time I'm just yearning to be with her. It's also scary because I don't WANT to fall in love. Not yet anyway. I've had my heart broken a lot of times in the past so I'm worried the same thing will happen if I do feel that way about her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2010): It sounds like you're suffering from a broken heart. It will get easier in time. Try dating some other girls. That may help get you past this. :-)
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reader, YouWish +, writes (23 May 2010):
Oh yeah, you've got it bad. :) Especially at this stage of the relationship, where your feelings for her are way up.
Just enjoy the feelings, and the better you'll feel when you two are back together again! What you can't do though is keep her around. Absence makes the heart grow fonder!
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reader, chaarzx +, writes (23 May 2010):
well, i have one thing to say to this, you feeling love...
being away from her? then spend more time with her?
hope this helped
chaarzx
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reader, BeSimplyTrue +, writes (23 May 2010):
 I'm pretty sure there's nothing wrong with you; this is called "infatuation" and it is very very common. It can be considered a phase of falling in love, if that's the direction your relationship takes. Here's some information on the infatuation stage:http://www.mens-relationship-advice.com/infatuation-stage.htmlIt doesn't just affect men, just so you know. I felt the very same thing with my new boyfriend (and boy was it a shock after all those years in an old, malfunctioning relationship!). I couldn't stop thinking about him, staring at my cell phone waiting for him to text me, remembering our past date or phone call, seeing his face in my mind's eye, looking forward to seeing him again... does this sound familiar?If you want advice, this is what I suggest (from my own experience, above): DON'T abandon the rest of your life right now. I know firsthand how all-consuming infatuation can be. I know. But I also know that I started neglecting other parts of my life in order to be with him (or even just think about him), and after a while that took a toll on my relationship with him. Basically he saw what I was doing and believed I expected him to do the same thing. He assumed I never wanted him to hang out with his friends, play video games alone, etc., and nothing I said would convince him otherwise. It was terrible, because that wasn't true--his friends are fine and so are his video games. But he wouldn't believe me because I acted like I had nothing else on my plate, just him. So, in conclusion, keep your life balanced! It is healthy for you and for your blossoming relationship :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2010): i feel the same way about my boyfriend and we've only been dating for two months. I feel like im crazzy just because I've never fallen for someone this quickly. So if your feeling the same way that i am...your deffinalty in love:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2010): Maybe she's the right girl for you!!! Someone is falling in love over here!!! ;)
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