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writes:Basically they broke up but she's still not over him they never had closure in their realtionship, now I have jumped in the picture and she really does like me and wants it to work out, but now she realizes she catn ignore the lover of her ex, and conintuew with me in a realtionship, we have agreed on a break so she can gather here thoughts , i love this girls and she doesnt want to hurt me she says, her ex is an asshole and doesnt deserve her love anyways, but if i told her this she wouldnt want to hear it because she doesnt want to feel pressure by me to make her own decision, anyways when it comes to space and time, waht shoudl i be doing, I'm going crazy thinking about her, and want to call her, but I dont want to invade her privacy, because I know she wants space
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (15 January 2009):
 She's still in the comfort zone of her ex, she still loves him. The best thing she can do for you is to give it space from him and time from him, not you. She should be spending more time with you or her friends, if you and her want anything out of it.
It's probably already too late but I would be just friends first, can you ask her to do somthing now and she'll say yeah? If so, you still got it. Just do something as a friend and support her as she gets over him first. The more you be her friend the more she will hang out with you. otherwise if she had no real break after him you could get hurt because she could rebound off of you and all he'd have to do is say to her "baby, im sorry lets get back together" and bang its over for you. If not then you may need to give her a bit of space, like no communication for 6 months (only communicate if she calls you - never ignore her or cut her off, always give her your attention when she needs/wants it).
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