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30-35,
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writes:Is love enough?I had been waiting to go out with this guy for ages, he was my best friend! but recently we seem to have nothing to talk about, we used to be on IM and the phone all the time talking , but recently we don't talk and when we do talk its in dissagreement!We have nothing in common. music, food, films!i know opposits are supposed to attract, but is love enough!Hes a vegatarian, i love my meat!At the moment all i can think about is getting out of this country, i am taking travel and tourism course and love it! When we first got together i thought we wanted the same things.but he wants to have a job in the uk for a year before moving abroad! but in this financial climate thats likely to be 5 years minimum down the line! I want to go now! He says we hav'nt been together that long. So i said to him does that mean hes not sure about me, like i am about him! and he said he didnt mean it like that!he said he want us to live together here in the uk for a while i case anything goes wrong! so i said to him sarcasticaly, "so hypotheticaly say somehow we managed to get money for a place then we lost our job and couldn't afford it anymore , what are we supposed to do, you go back to your parents and i got back to mine?" and he said yeah!i want to get away so i dont have anyone to rely on, so i have to grow up, but he doesent seem to want to!please help!should i tell him that im going abroad and he can come or stay, that i still want him, but if he dont want me, he said if i went abroad for 6 months on a summer rep job he would miss me too much! AHHHHHHHH!i have been doing travel and tourism and i have always made it clear that i wanted to move abroad. I have been given the opportunity to have a travel rep job, no idea where, but i just hate the uk,the only thing keeping me here is him.In november i went to disney land paris with my course fro 4 day and missed him like mad, we were on the phone to each other crying coz we missed each other.But last week we had not seen each other for nearly a week and he didnt even care or realise. we used to see each other nearly every day now we go for ages and its not a big deal, somethings changed and i dont know what
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (14 January 2009):
 Firstly, try not to rely on that: opposits are supposed to attract. they don't always. Forget it and live life withought analysing things like that, it could very well give you the wrong impression and you could make a bad decision based on that, go with your true feelings instead. what do they say?
Love is certianly enough but does he love you as much as you love him? Is he willing to make the move and why is he so nagative? hes got to have a bit of slack for you. These are the questions you need to find out from him.
Don't worry about him too much, just go abroad (for you) and if he's really into you, he'll make the effort to come to you too. Anyway you'll probably find someone amaizing abroad.
About your last sentence it could be many things, he could have a found a girl, he could be playing games, he could be unhappy. But if he's not making a big deal about being with you NOW and only when your away then thats his problem, not yours. Focus on your career and travels, and enjoy your time away don't let this ruin your future plans.
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