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writes:Ok... I'm back again, I have forgave her for sleeping with my friends who are not around any more. I want to know how I can trust her again and forget about this. We might not have been together when she done this, but if your not together then dont go and tell the person you DONT want to be with that you love them all the time then sleep with their friends and think its ok. Dont people feel regret for hurting the ones around them that care. Reply to this Question
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (20 January 2009):
 Ok, if your not living with her I think its best to have a little space for a while. write to her, email her phone her or see her in person. Either way do it once so you know she'll read it or hear it. Ask her if she still wants to be with you (make sure you know that she does - if not move on). If so, because her turning the phone off in this instance seems to be that she's trying to make you feel bad about making her feel bad. Let her know you'll need some space say three to six months to yourself.
Tell her you really liked her a lot and want to meet back up with her after this time away. What this does is it creates a "miss me" situation where you will both likely miss each other. make a time and a place to meet so you both have something to look forward too.
If you live with each other give her a little space by spending more time with your friends for a while, but make sure you let her know that you intend to do this so she doesn't get any ideas you going to do the same to her.
Either way you don't flow that low and cheat. You'll ride the waves.
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reader, deadinside +, writes (20 January 2009):
deadinside is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo she had sex with the both of them. Im trying to forgive her all the way but she makes it hard to do. Hell she is out right now with her cell phone off leaveing me home the little one. She isnt helping things out all that much.
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reader, Griffo +, writes (14 January 2009):
The best thing is to just love her, as you are, and do new things to build the relationship back up again. Take her somwhere special, a place that is your own, tell her you love her.
You need to get it out of your head, don't ever use it againsed her, ever or you'll be back to square one. you will end up feeling like shit more than her.
People do silly things they find an attraction and its only physical. Did she actually have sex with this friend? or just sleep with them?
People tend to hurt the ones they love most. But they alway get back together.
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