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*oGreen126
writes:Hi--My ex and I broke up about 7 1/2 months ago. I'm not over him. Even a little bit. I thought I'd heal in time, but I'm finding that I'm getting worse. I do cry myself to sleep less often now, but I still feel terrible most of the time.I've dated a few guys since, but nothing feels right. The guy I'm currently with, we've been on and off for 1 1/2 years. He loves me, and I love him too, but it feels different. I feel in my gut like I do love him though... Maybe it's just a siblingly love? I'm totally unsure on that one. Anyway, it feels more... wrong and off and I don't even feel like I want it sometimes. Sometimes it's great though. What do I do about him?I have a really great group of friends that are really supportive of me, which is really saying something for high school sophomores. My ex (the one I'm not over) is still my best friend as he has been for nearly 2 years. I still love him way more than I should. I get really jealous to the point of nearly painful enough to be physically incapacitating. He hasn't had another relationship after we broke up. He says he doesn't really like relationships, and he dumped me because he didn't really love me. I've been infatuated. I love him. I have no doubt on that, even though I'm just a naive, inexperienced teenager. It's been so long that I've had feelings for him (3 years) and he only liked me for 2 of the 4 1/2 months we were together. I'm starting to feel lost and alone. I don't know what to do about it. I don't think it's depression because I am really happy sometimes, but I feel like something has gone wrong with me and I'm not me anymore. I'm happy for a few days and then it's gone in a moment and doesn't return for a week or so, sometimes longer. I was hoping you could help meThank you--GG(I'm soon to be 16, if that matters)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2009): At some point you have invested all your emotional energy into this guy.You chose to put your hopes and dreams into the success of this relationship.
The pain is the realiztion that you alone are responsible for your happiness.He does not have any special powers,it's in you already.
Embrace the alone time and make peace with it now. You will become so strong that no person can ever make you feel weak without them again.
There is a chemical addiction that is in your brain as a result of the infatuation.It will slowly reduce in strength until it is normal again.
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