Should I take the chance even though he doesn't want a relationship?

A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I like a guy who lives in a different state than I do. We went to h.s. together and knew who each other were but never talked. About 2 weeks ago he initiated conversation with me and we have talked every day since. Only problem is, he says he doesnt want a long distance relationship. He says he likes me a lot, and knows I like him a lot as well. And I asked him what made him so sure he wouldnt fall for me if I came to visit. And he said he is not sure he wouldnt fall for me, but it would be worth it and we would have a good time. I know a lot of people he knows, including his exes, and none of them have said anything bad about him. They all say he is great and even if it doesnt work out he is still an amazing person and friend to have. So, I know he is not an asshole, and he always says the sweetest things to me. I am just not sure if I should quit and be done with the whole thing, because I dont want to fall completely for someone who might not fall for me. But part of me wants to visit him and see how it goes anyway. Maybe because we havent been around each other in person its easier to say that he doesnt want a long distance relationship, but what if we met and we both blew each other away, then maybe he would change his mind?...He is amazing, and I know this...and I know he wouldnt hurt me on purpose, he has been completely up front with me. I just need to know if I should visit him where he lives and see how being together in person is?...or just think there is never any hope?...HELP

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