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writes:I was asking for advice concerning my ex we broke up in August remained friends he visits on weekends and has times he stays in the week I see our friendship like being on a roller coaster one minute fine then look out.We are nothing alike yes he is quite but has the wild side I have never been wild etc well he has been staying with me a month so many days now he has told me now twice once his ex and other kids others leave his daughters he would go back home go back to coming on weekends they had their gas and lights cut off.I overheard him talking to his daughter last night one he lives with they do not get along he spoke like mom had gone back home I am not sure if the heat is on or not I got real mad last night and got ready to question him today now seems like when he had to move out I ended up packing his things putting outside he was not really putting his heart into it.Now my problem is I am slow to doing or saying something but I see that moment coming part of me wonts to move on I speak about online dating he is a jealous type one of his friends he knows visits my elder neighbour next door who him and I are neighbours as well as friends I have been asked was I trying to get with him please I hardly know him.I seem to fall for the wrong men and I am getting tired I really am
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (25 February 2012):
 Honey are you serious??? Putting up with all his shit...just so you got a ride??? Really?? take a bus, who knows you might meet the man of your dreams on the bus.
I say it again, this man is controlling you and you ARE NOT in a relationship with him. He needs to learn that he cannot see or speak to you ever again, so you got to cut him off dead, go cold turkey and shut him out of your life.
If he won't leave you alone or causes an argument, you contact the police department and say 'My ex refuses to stay away from me' if he still don't stop, you get a restraining order to keep him away from you.
He will only learn that he cannot do anything to you if you stay strong and stand your ground. You are not with him so he has not one single right to interfere with your life.
Seriously...take the bus.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question Dear AuntyEm: Boy you woke me up its hard to hear but the truth I know I should of let him go and not been friends or anything see him say hi I get the urge then cannot do it he has a family that like drama find out something on you there it is do not let it be something to talk about.So how soon should I do this I see an argument I am not someone who likes to argue and his friend does not spy on me its him and his jealous self like I said my ears will be burning again like when I packed up his things and set out.Now for some reasons my worries are its time for my daughter to get her check his twin sister she either lets him use her car she works or she takes us to the grocery store I say Wanda how you got their before she came along whats up with me and that like if I mention it say today there goes my ride which I have to take a cab coming and going I need a course in spotting red signs when someone is using me all to it thanks for you advice
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (25 February 2012):
Why are you still entertaining your ex?
He sounds like a controlling lowlife who doesn't want to be in a relationship with you but keeps coming back to use you, unload his crap on you and expects you to clean up after him?
Are you hoping he will want you back? Why would he when you are acting like a personal slave to him and his whims and he doesn't have to put any effort in at all.
I assume you are still sleeping with him. Do you think that is going to make him want you back? because seriously HE DOESN'T WANT TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU...you are acting like a public convienience, like a door mat.
Seriously you should take Aunty BIM BIMs advice...make a big list and realise you absolutely do not have to put up with this sh*t.
Get the guy and all his crap out of your life. Don't let him in your house, get a restraining order. He eeven has his friends spying on you.
WAKE UP CALL!!!!! YOU ARN'T WITH HIM, YOU CAN DO WHATEVER YOU WANT!!!
If you choose to do nothing your life will continue to be hell.
HE IS USING YOU...GET RID OF HIM AND GO MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY WITH A BETTER MAN!!!
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (25 February 2012):
 it seems to me when you have had enough of getting tired about it you might DO something about it.
As far as the ex is concerned, why put up with it, why be friends with somebody who doesnt appear to add anything to your life but just detracts from it? Only you can answer that question.
Once you find the answer to that, spend some time thinking about what the ex has in common with all the other wrong men you have fell for, write a list of what they have in common, work out why it is you are attracted in the first place, is it something physical, or mental, or they way they talk, is it as simple as their accent? Once you work out what is attracting you to these wrong men, next time you meet one you'll know to run a mile and not get involved.
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