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writes: im getting mixed signals from my boyfriend, please help me! it may be a bit long but ok...we have been dating for 6 months having our minor daily fights like normal couples. i know he loves me very much and i love him very much. he has proven it by many things such as being sweet,caring,a gentlemen, being his longest relationship by x3, and always there for me when i need him. about 2weeks ago he mentioned taking a break. at first i was confused why, i mean i know we were having some problems in our relationship but i didnt think they were that bad. so we talked and he said he was afraid of commitment(and never plans on settling down with anyone), had confused feeling for his first love that he still loves but isnt in love with, and thought he was missing out on something in his life. so we are starting our break in 4days, i wanted to wait so i would know it's the decision he really wants, but hes been trying to slowly drift away from me by not wanting us to say "i love you" anymore cuz it hurts to much and i barely get to talk to him cuz hes always busy,which i understand, but it doesnt seem like he even wants to talk to me. then when we do talk or are together he will still call me honey, baby,and the other cute nicknames he gave me that he knows i love. we still kiss and make out and everything like we use to its just a few of the things he doesnt want to do and the rest he does. so i dont know if its cuz he is confused with what he wants or what it is. he has also told me hes not going to date for a long time cuz he feels he messed up our relationship and doesnt want to do that again. he also feels if we keep dating and something bad happens and we break up, we will both get hurt way worse than we already are. i feel i cant get hurt much worse cuz being with him is the only thing ive ever been sure i wanted in my life. so any advice on what to do or how to keep him would be greatly appriciated!!! thanks for reading and sorry its so long!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (18 June 2008):
 Whenever someone asks for a break, there is trouble. In the end, all the convoluted words just mean one thing: that the other person wants out, but either wants to keep an option to be back, or is trying to get out little by little. His slowly drifting away is proof of what I say.
Maybe he has not been as straightforward as I would like or you would need him to be, but he is saying that he wants out. Take him at his word. Let him go away, and find yourself someone else who will want to commit to you, and who won't think he's missing out on something. His life should be great with you in it. And, you don't want someone who still has feelings for somebody else: he has to give you his all.
I'm aware this won't sound like a good thing to do, but, let him go. Don't push it. See it this way: if he is meant to be with you, he will come on his own.
Try living a life like the one you had before he came. And, if somebody interesting comes your way, take your chances.
All the best.
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