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writes: hello...i took my boyfriends virginity .... and he is having trouble getting a good hard on and lasting more than 3 min.. it has been abt 4 months now and it is still an issue ... i have tried everything alot of fore play, he went to the doctor and they said possible performance anxiety.... he gave him a few viagra.... 1 out of the three wld i say was satisfying. I try everything dressing up, different, places, watching porn. i at first thought it was me i didnt turn him on or something but i have asked him about this and we are very open and he swears that is that it at all. Now i am becoming a little frustrated there is nothing worse then sex with a mooshy penise. I feel like i am in the wrong being mad or angry because he was a virgin i was a lot more expercienced and a bit intimidating. I am getting ancy i need to be satisfied, and not just orally. I know mostr people wld say brak up but... this is the first time i have felt this way abt some one in 3 years , we laugh together like crazy, tell eachother everything, my family loves him, he has a good career, good looking, gets along with my fiends, open to do whatever i want, and deals with my emotions so well he understands me very well wich is not easy i am very complicated girl haha.. so i guess my question is ... will this get better with time possibly more meds? he is only 22 he shld be walking around with a hard on ha ha but i just dnt know what to do... sorry abt the gramar
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reader, :):):)  +, writes (28 May 2008):
It is almost definitly psychological.
It happens once = he's embarrased = is anxious next time = no erection.
A vicious cycle. The best thing you can do is tell him that it dosent matter and be understanding. Even a massage bfore you get started could help release tension and help him relax.
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reader, edsbabygirl  +, writes (27 May 2008):
 you are very welcome. Things will definately get better.
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reader, edsbabygirl +, writes (27 May 2008):
Do you tell him that he has a mushy penis. Most of it could be in his head. If you are telling him that he doesn't please you, then he definately wont get a hard on. I took my boyfriends virginity and it was a little while before his penis was really hard. But he Can get one 8 times in one day now. It could be just mental. Try doing some fun role plays and make sure he knows that pleasing you ins't the most important thing in the world. Tell him he should just have fun.
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