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writes:My girlfriend who works as a radiographer keeps telling me and joking to me about all these men whose genitals she sees in detail and it makes me very uncomfortable. I'm not quite sure why it does, I'm very self conscious about my genitals, especially my testicles as they are very un appealing but she does not know this yet, but I can't tell - why do you think I am so bothered by this? Is it normal? and will I get over it? (I'm getting a proper complex...) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): Married to a nurse for 25yrs, you never really get used to it. You just learn to accept it. The thought of your wife/girlfriend handling or seeing another man's penis, no matter the reason, is odd. My wife (and I) were both virgins, but she had seen probably about "live" penises by then, at the age of 21. I was limited to magazines, a few strip shows, and a few fondles as a teenager. I knew what nurses do, and she would sometimes explain procedures, but it never bothered me until I fell in love. All nurses say they do not compare, but all nurses have 'big penis' stories and a lot of penis jokes. After from the initial thoughts of 'how many are bigger', 'do I measure up', and other size issues, you then begin to wonder if she has seen so many, is it any thrill at all to see you naked...just another penis. Holding you, touching you, seeing you...has it lost that specialness or naughtyness? She love you for WHO you are, not your penis, but when you whip it out, you want to be impressive! My wife switched to mat/peds just after we married, mainly because of me, so she rarely has seen another penis on an adult.
It is something you accept or you don't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've had a think about it and to go into a bit more detail, She tells me things about how goes go in and get aroused when she touches them, and the she's said before just how massive their erections were and even measured them out on me before! but then she'll also say how unlucky men are to have them and how bad we have it because they are so awkward and unsightly and that she would never want one and how glad she is to be a girl. And then she'll say don't you just wish you were a girl etc... it wierds me out and makes me feel inadequate and certainly doesn't make me feel sexy to her...
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2009): lol all testicles are funky…tell her to stop talking about it if it bothers you…my boyfriend is a nurse and if he saw boobs all day i certainly don't want to hear about whether he thought they were nice or not! it's just out of common courtesy and respect…i'd be annoyed if i were you…she should watch her mouth…you're feelings are justified
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2009): Aww, don't be self conscious! She's gonna love you (and I mean love you) no matter what! --25 year old with experience
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (27 January 2009):
 She's just teasing you.
The men whose bits she sees at work are in hospital because they have a medical problem. They are likely a) older b) not in good general health and c) terribly embarrassed that people are looking at their genitals. You could bet a lot of money that she does not find it in any way a sexy experience.
If she starts talking this way again then just say, "Look you're obviously a bit of an expert, would you mind checking mine out and giving me an opinion?" and then start to unbuckle your belt. That will call her bluff.
You have to have confidence in yourself because if you don't that will be a big turn off for her.
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