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writes:My question is regarding a problem i have and has me crazy. The problem is that a coworker looks at me in a wierd way he gets mad when other people are around me and pays too much attencion to me. The thing is im a gay guy and hes straight. What can i do to know what hes trying to tell me with his acts. Im attracted to him since i saw him but im not out to get anybody at work also on x mas i send him a gift and i didt put my name on the tag but he is so sure it was from me. Help me plz!!
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reader, magaz12 +, writes (2 February 2008):
magaz12 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey thankx for everybodys answers. To give an update here Alex my co worker left 3 weeks for a training he called me and said he misses me alot and its only been several days out of the center. Before he left he said he liked to be around me and he felt a great sensation in his stomach when i was near.he also asked me for a big favor too keep an eye on his car while it was at the dealership so i did and also drove his car to my house. What advice can i get im i doing good or should i slow down? He did kiss me already oh yea and he is straight i sow his ex gril. Help me plz i do like him.
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reader, jm81690  +, writes (17 January 2008):
 I could be wrong, it sounds almost like he's got a crush on you though.
Is there any chance he thinks you're bisexual? If so that could explain why he gets upset when people are around you.
As far as you giving him attitude and not being friends or friendly or whatever, maybe he secretly has a thing for you but thinks you don't like him back?
I mean the guy gets defensive when people are around you, and he tried getting friendly with you at the start, i can't relate to acting that way about someone unless I liked them.
And I can't see any reason for a straight guy to act like that around another guy, who knows though I could be wrong.
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reader, magaz12 +, writes (16 January 2008):
magaz12 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell no we arent friends maybe he wanted to be my friend at first but I pushed him away couse one day I gave him attitude. And he gets mad when im around any person or the other way it dosent differ on guy or girl.
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reader, lboy  +, writes (15 January 2008):
 dear reader,
maybe the guy is bi-curious or bi but not out about it, chances are he has a crush on you too and that is why he gets defensive. if your friends with the guy then maybe you should ask him if he wants to go out for a drink after work sometime. im not gonna say dont start an office relationship because its your choice if you think it can work. but i would ask the guy out for a drink and then just get to know him and then maybe bring up the whole he looks at u all the time and he gets defensive, then maybe ask if he is gay or bi. if he says yes he is then you'll have to take it from there or write back with more questions. well thats all the advice i have so good luck.
good luck
lboy
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2008): Hey guy. First of all I should tell you from experience that it is not a good thing to start an office romance. It can result badly and affect your career. If it goes wrong one of you will probably have to leave because the bosses will not want you to expose your personal life to everyone at work. This applies to all sexual orientations. Now it seems that you like this guy a lot and if you can develop a trusting friendship come right out and ask him if he is gay or straight or bi. Nowadays people are much more accepting than you think. If you can't trust him yet, just open up a general conversation about what he feels about gays or bi's. Then depending on his answer, you will know to either back off or ask him out on a date. But if you want to make a career at your present job, I would say look elsewhere for love. Been there and after fighting at work with my girlfriend and her crying on everybody's shoulder the boss finally said that we were disrupting the whole organization and one of us had to leave. Just keep that in mind and Good luck.
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reader, jm81690 +, writes (14 January 2008):
Well, is he a friend?
If he gives you weird looks he could be uncomfortable around a gay guy, but getting defensive when other guys are around you doesn't seem like something a homophobe would do by any means.
You could ask him if he's gay, while trying not to make it too obvious you've got a thing for him.
Maybe he's bi-curious, doesn't sound completely straight to me though.
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