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writes:Wow, Ok. I'm 22 and openly gay, and so I have this friend. We met a couple months ago at a party and I immediately had an attraction towards him. He's adorable, funny, sweet, kind and "straight" supposedly. Everyone thinks he is gay or bisexual...for instance, we were at the mall and he ran into one of his teachers at his school and he took him aside and asked him if we were together. He just tells everyone that I'm like his brother and thats he's completely straight. All he ever talks to me about is girls that he thinks are hot and how much he isn't over his ex-girlfriend of 3 years. Over the last couple months we have gotten closer. He usually talks to me when he wants to vent about girl problems and I listen and give him advice as best I can. Also, he knows I have the biggest crush on him and is fine with it. The past couple parties we've been to he's gotten completely trashed and hangs on me and tell me he loves me, even though he tells (even his sraight guys friends) he loves them. He's kissed me on the cheek a couple times, and tells me that if he were gay he would totally "fuck the shit outta me". He even told me he used to be bi years ago but he likes pussy too much and that I have to accept it and move on. He said he doesnt want to lose me as a friend and he needs me in his life, but I have to get over this crush. He also has said that he's so fursterated with girls that he wants to try something different sometimes. And about that time we went to the mall, he said that he would've held my hand, to prove that he didn't care that people thought we were gay. Ok..How in the fuck did you "used" to be bi? either you are or you aren't. I've been obsessed over this guy for weeks now and he's honestly all i think about. when i get on facebook, if he doesn't message me in a couple days I feel heart broken. If hes not interested in me, then why is he saying all this shit to me? If there was a chance he would be able to love me I would totally want to take advantage of it. But he's making it so hard that I'm thinking it might be best to stop alking to him, even though I dont want to. Help me..please
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reader, Antero  +, writes (24 December 2010):
Dear, friend, Please read this:
I feel your pain because I AM you in many ways.... first of all, I have created this account just to answer your question, because I just couldn't see another gay guy getting heart broken. It is not easy to leave him, isn't it? He keeps confusing you with mixed signals.... I cannot judge your friend, but I can tell you this, you are going to have to give up on him. It may scar you for a long time, maybe even for a year or more... but friend, hoping that he will love you back will not help you.... At some instance, he may agree to be with you as his lover, but soon will leave you for another girl.... that is the way it is.... He is a little confused sexually, it happens to some guys. I know that for now he seems to be the love of your life, but that is not true... There are so many other, nicer GAY men who would fall for you. Remember, you will be responsible for your own actions... make a wise choice and get over him, or cut him off your life. I'm kinda getting over this madness myself, so I'm sorry if I'm not able to convince you...
take care...
hugs,
Antero.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2010): Hi, I posted this question and I'm still experiencing the same feelings for him. I need more advice/feedback from people. Thanks!
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (27 October 2010):
 Well... for one. He didn't 'used to be' bi. He IS bi... but as he's stated he's more into girls. His bi-ness comes out when he's drunk - as you've pointed out. That's probably why you're so confused. He IS taking advantage of the crush you have on him though... and that's not healthy - especially for you.
You need to tell him that either he stops leading you on (shit or get off the pot - so to speak)... or you're going to have to cut him out of your life... for your own sanity.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (27 October 2010):
 some men will give out signals everyone that show others what they want to see. i had a friend like this and people thought there was something going on but really he was just feeding his massive ego off my attraction to him. been there done that, move on cos it only hurts and gets you nothing good at all.
i dont have any contact with that "friend" now, and couldn't be happier
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2010): Nevermind, i posted this question. There isn't love here. only bullshit and lies and drunkeness. fuck him
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2010): He's either in denial or he's stringing you along. Try stepping out of his life for a few weeks and see how he reacts.
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