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writes:Hi everyone, well I really need help in this situation and please reply with honesty. well here we go first of all im a 16 yr old girl and I have an ex bf that my lil brother present to me, my ex is 14 and not turning 15 till 8 months and im turning 17 in 5 months. well I heard age doesnt matter my friends tell me its nothing but a number does it matter anyone? my mom tells me yeah beacause what if I had a baby from him it would be difficult for us to maintain it especially cause hes 14 and im 16 :/. And here's the other situation I only saw him once in person with that why we broke up I guess we didnt like each other but now we kinda do so we ended as friends with benefits and yeah we are going to kiss have sex and other stuff soon..,we've been talking on the phone but barely, I wait for his calls i dont call him since were friends with benefits also hes friends with benefits with this ugly girl he doesnt even like her, I found out cause of his messages on fb he gave me his email and password so i'll be reading them. she insist him about everything and he will deny everything about her even my brother told me he doesnt like her because last night she did some vampire bites on his neck and he didnt want to. my brother said he was backing up and she just got him and forced him and well my brother told me that my ex likes me not her, its that hes getting tired of me and thats why he doesnt call me that much cause I dont hang out with him, but I dont know if I should believe my brother because he's the one that made him and that girl be friends with benefits.I read everything on facebook and my brother hangs out wih him everyday which yesterday me and my brother got in a fight cause of that! well can some one give me an advice on this situation..should I hang out with him often and how many times should I hang out with him? How can I flirt with him? How can I make him like me? How do I act with him in person or through the phone? Should I hang out with him a lot so he wont pay attention to the other one? How can I make him call me a lot, jealous? Will me hanging out with him will make him stop hanging out with the other girl or my brother? those two are breaking us apart! Somebody please please please help in my situation be honest please and thank you :)!
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reader, yami +, writes (22 November 2011):
yami is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWow thank you everyone whope eveything helps!thank you so much I wont anser or talk to him evrr again thxs again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2011): You should absolutely NOT hang out with him. Back away, turn, and run. At your age you should be focusing on school and on your future, not on what you shood feel about / do with a 14 yr old wanna be player.
Ignore him, find some new friends and let yourself grow up. This scene does not look like it is healthy or good for you, you deserve much better than this, so get out while you can.
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reader, yami +, writes (21 November 2011):
yami is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWow thank you sweetie pie so should I hang out with him?like go out at the park,mall,have fun?
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reader, yami +, writes (21 November 2011):
yami is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes thank you I am tatally goana ignore him! Anymore advice? I like how confused gives me advice 10 stars for her!
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reader, yami +, writes (21 November 2011):
yami is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes thank you I am tatally goana ignore him! Anymore advice?
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reader, Sweety Pie  +, writes (21 November 2011):
 The one thing i've learnt about guys is that if you give them attention, they get bored and think they can treat you like dirt, because you'll always be around. Ignore them and they'll come trailing back eventually (at which point you laugh in their faces and walk away... hopefully)
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reader, mammaboo +, writes (21 November 2011):
 Don,t want to sound off with you but you have some issues yourself and they are quite dark for someone your age. I think you need some help from your parents and your peers.
The way you are describing how and what you want this boy to feel is really disturbing. Do you have problems you need to deal with, for yourself, if so, seek some councelling.
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reader, yami +, writes (21 November 2011):
yami is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWow thank you very much your really smart thank you for the advice what other advice can you give me?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 November 2011):
 so you want revenge on him...
ah that' simple..
LIVE WELL
IGNORE HIM
LOOK BEAUTIFUL
IGNORE HIM
GET ON with a happy healthy life...
IGNORE HIM...
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reader, yami +, writes (21 November 2011):
yami is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both of you but what I actually wabt to know is how to make him be in back of me like a dog so he could feel pain? Thats what he gets for being fwb & iam not a virgen but supposobly he is..???
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 November 2011):
 First off, don't try to get pregnant, it's not going to keep him around or make your life easier.
2. He's 14, so drop it.
3. If he is fooling around with more then one girl, he isn't really for a relationship and honestly FWB is ridiculous at your ages. You shouldn't worry about having meaningless sexual relationship.
4. Stay of his Facebook and email.
5. LIVE life and enjoy it, dont look and create more drama then you can handle.
6. Your mom is right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2011): At 16 you should really not be stressing about friends with benefits situation. You want someone who loves and cares for you alone to enjoy sex and with him being younger, should you get pregnant you can actually be charged with statutory rape I believe, as he is a minor and in the eyes of the law cannot make decision about sex until he is of legal age.
My honest opinion, forget about him, if he wants some ugly girl then let him get on with it, let her be the fool. If I were you I would definately want more for myself and you deserve better then being FWB. You should want sex to be something special and to share it with someone who won't be sleeping with anyone else. As you get older you might meet different partners but at your age you don't want to end up being used as you will look back and wish you had waited for a person you trust.
Always remember protection, if you do find a boyfriend then even if you are not having sex get yourself on the pill as a back up in case you do-but you would not be protected from diseases so until you know someone you are with is only sleeping with you and is free from all STD's and STI's then you should always use a condom.
Sorry for the lecture! : ) I hope you find someone who deserves you x
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 November 2011):
at 14 and 16 age DOES matter...
at 22 and 24 not so much...
do you even GET what FWB means?
it's for adults who have had sex and have an urge and no desire to have a long term life partner... VIRGINAL TEENS DO NOT NEED FWB...
if you feel the need to read his email and his facebook messages you do NOT trust him.. why in the world would you want to be with someone you do not trust?
honey trust me if a boy does not want a girl on him she's off of him.... I can get anyone touching me that I don't want to be touched by Off of me.. because if they are that close I can cause bodily harm... you are being given a line and you WANT to believe it so you do.
my advice... let the 14 yr old go....
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