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writes:So i've just started collage,and i thought that it would be amazing because i don't get on well with everyone,and i thought i'd meet a lot of new friends.I used to get along with everyone,but people have let me down a lot and i cant seem to forgive people but after all this time it still bothers me.I love collage,doing the subjects i want to and i've met some lovely people,it's been about 4 weeks into it and i still can't really find anyone who's a lot like me,who loves art and stuff,i still dont feel like i fit in anywehere.I just want a group of friends who like the same things as me and wont let me down,In my art class the people who i fell out with are in there,so it's just hard because i keep thinking 'if we didnt fall out everything would be ok,and i'd be able to go with them on art tripes etc...i know it sounds silly but its horrible always thinking what if,and that i dont fit in anywhere.It's only been 4 weeks so im sure i'll meet new people,but my confidence is fading and it seems i wont find anyone new. I have friends who live in Leeds and London away from me who are a lot like me but it still bothers me that i cant find anyone at school,I havent got invited to partys yet but i dont know why! I seem to be social,but i dont know what i could do to socialise a bit more,Help?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 October 2011):
 You are saying that you cannot find others that are like you and like the same things that you do. But friendship is contriversal and it shouldn't matter if they like the same things that you do, you can still find some close friends who you don't have much in common with. Believe me. You need to try and open your mind up more and be open to trying to get to no other people that you would usually not have anything in common with. Also the others in your art class. You are all at college now so you are all becoming more mature so why not bury the hatched with them and try and get on with them. It is still early days so I am confident that you will meet some people in no time. You say you have not been invited to any parties but why don't you yourself make the effort to ask some people would they like to go on a night out with you and see what happens. Good luck.
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