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writes:One of my friends who I didn’t really like asked me out three days ago. Said he loves me and would like if we were in a relation. He asked me if I could start developing feelings for him. I didn’t want to be rude and I thought that maybe something could happen and I would eventually start falling for him too so I said 'yes'. Three days into this relationship and I want to get out of it already!! This guy doesn’t give me my space. He wants me to text him all throughout the day! Which is fine, I like texting. But he expects me to reply immediately and when I don't him gets mad and picks a fight. We’ve fought over that so many times in these three days already. And we have nothing to say to each other. Whatever conversations we have are so boring. He already shows dominating signs, he always wants me to listen to him and if I don’t he'll try to emotionally blackmail me. Overall, I have started to hate him more instead of falling for him. I don’t want this relationship to continue anymore because clearly I’m unable to develop the same feelings for him. I want help with how to end it. In all of my past relations, most of the breakups were mutual so this would be the first time I’d be the one have to 'dump' someone. also I don’t want to be mean and need to let him know that this isn’t working and I’m not at all happy. I need help in how to break up. Oh and also, I’ve tried ignoring him for half a day but he just keeps calling and pestering me, so ignoring isn’t going to help. :( HELPP!!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (10 October 2011):
 you can't just ignore him. you have to be brave and tell him "look it's just not working out, I'm sorry"
it's hard to break up with someone but it's cruel if you just walk away and don't say anything.
it would be "more mean" to ignore him and let him try to figure out what's going on than it would be to tell him one time that it's not working out...
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (10 October 2011):
You need to be bold and brave and be straight forward and tell him that it is over. He may try to emotionally blame you and make you feel sorry for him but stand your ground and be straight. If he asks why then tell him the truth but don't let him change the blame to you.
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