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writes:My ex and I had a long distance relationship for 7 months which has slowly faded out. While we're not in the same kind of relationship as we were we have been texting a little each day mostly general day to day stuff. This morning I closed our short text with an "xo" followed by "happy you're in my life". I got no reply back. My thought is to leave it alone and not text her back all day. While I really want her back I dont want to seem to over eager. What is the play here? I am a midddle aged man who likes to express how he feels but the woman I want back seems to be less expressive than me and it makes me feel somewhat uncertain as I try to woo her back. Ladies please give some feedback here. Thanks for your advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2013): You are a middle-aged man; which is why you of all people should know better. If it has faded, it is over.Man, for crying out loud. Get out and enjoy life before it passes you by. Clinging to some person you can only communicate by phone or e-mail is so needy. She is getting hits from dozens of men online everyday. She has lost interest and respect for you. It's okay for people half your age. They have the benefit of being so young that time allows them an extended period to experience things; and finally come to the conclusion that you have to make face to face contact to enjoy the human experience of making a connection with someone else.You can't trust fictitious profiles written like toothpaste commercials. They're all the leading brand. Really???You are hiding behind a screen; because it is easier than allowing someone to judge you for who you really are. You can create a virtual character and think they'll continue to fantasize and be satisfied with a character that you've created just for her. Welcome to reality. She gets dozens of hits from dudes claiming the same and better. She deserves what she gets, if she's that superficial. She hasn't a clue. Same goes for you.Get out and find people your own age and enjoy the human experience. These kids will learn in time that the best experience of your life is look the person you love in the eyes, and actually touch them. You can shop for people based on a profile, or you can meet them in person and actually experience the companionship up close and personal.You can feel the chemistry as it sparks, just in the moment of eye contact.I pity people who think they can find love on a computer screen. Life restricted to text messages and e-mails. When they finally meet, that person isn't a thing like what they pretended to be online. Maybe you aren't one of those people. I applaud all the people who claim they found the love of their lives online. What they don't tell you is the hundreds of creeps they had to put up with; until by some act of fate, they found someone close to a sane individual. That would have happened if they just made themselves available out in public. You meet a lot of people, you don't find love any easier.Move on or be real. You're too old to avoid meeting women the hard way. Actually going out in public and letting them see what you actually look like. Allowing then to scrutinize your personality; and based their feelings about you on how you really behave in person.It's tough and old-fashioned, but it's what it comes down to in the end. People who deserve love and really want it are willing to find it the hard way. Nothing will ever replace reality. You're now facing that.I hope you find happiness and a good woman who will fulfill your dreams. Go volunteer to for a charitable organization,go to a concert, a fund-raising event. Meet women of substance and having a generous nature. Man, you can't do better than that. That is, if you can handle the strong and independent type.If you can't live up to your profile. You're desperate and depend heavily on the internet to snare unsuspecting females who believe what they read about you.Good luck! You wanted to hear from women. I gave you a dose of male reality.
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