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writes:Hello everyone. I'm graduating from college soon and going through job interviews. It's a normal part of life but I can't help but feel lonely these days. I have been busy studying and working throughout college. I've always been a private person and happy about it, until recently when I realized I barely retained any friends from college. My close friends from work (I'm a server) are mainly guys, and the girls have their own friends. I've tried to make plans with various people, as they have with me, but our schedules hardly match. My mom says the best part of my life is still ahead of me. And that even if my first job isn't ideal, it's the stepping stone to better opportunities. I'm almost graduated and blessed to have interview opportunities, but there's nothing that makes me feel fulfilled right now. I can't help but with I had relationships, either with friends or a boyfriend. But I know finding a decent job comes first. Recently I've just been watching TV shows and escaping into them, but at the end of the day everything is still the same. Any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, petina1  +, writes (9 June 2014):
 hi my son, was in a similar situation to you. He was a quiet person, shy. He then volunteered at a school sports club and helped the kids with their activities. His confidence grew so much, he started going to a gym, did a keep fit course, did more keep fit with kids but also then went on to selling cars for a living, all in the space of about four years. Its amazing how one small thing can be like a stepping stone to how your life will pan out. I always worried about him being alone, being the only child. Now he's the top salesman with the car company and has a lovely girlfriend and a baby now. So change your life, small steps at first then off you go. It wont happen whilst you are at home in your room. Get out there and Live.... good luck!
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reader, malvern +, writes (9 June 2014):
 The best way to find friends is to join some sort of club, organisation etc. where people share the same interest as you do. This may be a sport club, dancing club, drama group, craft group etc. By doing this it means you will be spending a regular evening each week with other like minded people who have also made a commitment to that same evening. You can't spend all your time studying, you have to have some sort of relaxation and if you want relationships with other people you're not going to meet them by just watching TV.
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