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writes:i have broken all contacts with this girl and have gone away from her life forever. ours was a long distance relationship for one year and i had gone to her place in berlin a couple of times to stay with my grandparents during my holidays and really enjoyed being with her. we spent a lovely time hanging around and i proposed to her recently a year ago when i was there and even she accepted that.i was the happiest person on this globe as my happiness knew no limits and i was very happy to see a girl whom i liked in my arms and we hung around a lot hand in hand .but after coming back to my place, many a times i didnt feel that closeness from her side as i felt in person with her.i cudnt see any flirty chats and long talks like we used to have once upon a time when we were friends and were curious to know about each other though she has always been very polite and generous.i felt perhaps this long distance relationship wont work and things have got faded. also i could notice the fading spark ,interest and curiosity to know each other and i was helplessly watching that happening with me . i tried for some months and did whatever i can to save this relationship and regenerate the lost spark and waited endlessly for her, but that girl started taking me for granted and came only when she got time and i was emerging as a fool and a stalker in her life. finally i did what i should have done much earlier, i moved on and left her completely and even ignored her emails asking me why i dont contact her and stuff but in the end, she also left the matter. maybe she was unaware of this side and it was all in my mind. eventually, i had overcome that assuming it happens in life and you cant get everything you like. but frankly, i am content and happy with my life now . i have got a girlfriend and she loves me a lot.i dont think about her and have got better people in my life who deserve my love and care. now that i am going to stay with my grandparents this summer, i may happen to meet her and i am really confused about how to react on seeing her after such a long time. i still have a soft corner for her in my heart and i am excited to meet her...what do you think about it friends ? any suggestions ? i am feeling guilty for ending it all up where i could have atleast remained friends with her.
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reader, didda123 +, writes (25 February 2009):
 She may have moved on as well she could also have a new boyfriend.
It may stir old feelings up in you if you do actually bump into her again so you will have to prepare yourself for that at least.
It was a shame it didn't work out for you but you were both young and the distance would have made it very difficult to sustain a loving relationship. You are happy now you say you have moved on in your life and have a lovely new girlfriend so you should content yourself with this now that you have found someone who makes you happy.
There is no reason why your ex-girlfriend and yourself cannot both be friends now if she is willing but you should be careful that it will not lead to other things especially as you will be on holiday and in a more relaxed state because unless one of you is prepared to move to be nearer the other it is a fruitless excercise because you will just end up in the same situation again drifting apart.
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reader, tux  +, writes (25 February 2009):
 Well ends of relationship are never easy. Ending things as friends, as noble as it may sound, may not be the best idea for some relationships. I tried staying friends with one of my ex-gf's before and it turned out worse because she couldn't get over the fact that we were over. It ended up creating more problems than what it was worth. I tried to end it civilly, but it turned ugly and nearly cost my current relationship with my now wife.
I'm not saying every relationship will turn out that way, but be careful what you wish for. Sometimes it is best to leave things how they are, but if it's been awhile , that could have helped as well..
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