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writes:I am very troubled. Everyday I pretend to be happy, I feel like I am living a lie. I've been with this man for 5 years and we have 2 kids together. I was 16 when I had my first child and 19 when I had my second. We only knew e/o for 3 months and then we found out we were pregant. Things really changed. His very disrespectful, screams at me in public. Tells me I'm useless everyday of my life. I can't take it anymore but, I'm scared to leave him because his the one making money in our family and I'm also scared that he'd take less of a responsibility for his children. Anyways, heres the thing I am inlove with someone else. An ex-boyfriend. I don't know what to do. He doesn't know it...but I am scared to express my feeling becaue I'm scared to get rejected. I do have two kids...what should I do? I'm living in a lie!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2008): It sounds like you got into the relationship without giving it enough thought so don't go and make the same mistake again by just running to your ex as an escape.First of all you need to tell this man you are not happy with the way he is treating you, because he may not be aware of it, if you are pretending to be happy.Have you any friends or family who can help you out? Could you live independently and get benefit? You need to get more information to know what to do next.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (23 May 2008):
Are you really content to let your kids grow up thinking it's normal for a man to treat a woman that way, because he makes a good wage?
Leave and get a job, or start a business from home. There are plenty of single mums in the world who manage just fine.
As for your feelings for this man, they are irrelevant at the moment as you are with the father of your children. Once you are out of that then maybe you can start dating. But it's likely that because you feel trapped, you've made this guy into your knight in shining armour who will come and rescue you and make it better.
Sorry Princess, but you're going to have to do it for yourself.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, kirsty_123us +, writes (23 May 2008):
Think about yourself here, not your financial postition is there anyone in the family you could just stay at till you got on your feet? or a friend?
there are lots of parents who are in the same situation as you and its sad
never be in a situation in which you deserve better.
this life is for living not so you can look back in regret you didnt get out, you are clearly unhappy.
Explain to your current boyfriend your situation that you no longer want to be with him etc and everything will all slot together. im sure he will be very sad but im sure that his daughter or son comes first! im sure he will help you out.
I hope this helps you a little.
oh and as for your ex i would wait a little just for noow till this is all sorted have a clear head and if its what you want then go for it
:)
good luck
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