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writes:Ok I have a question to those who have been in the same position as me I've been in quite a long term relationship my first love for almost three years, and this year things have really gone down hill, we only see each other weekends as it is but I have started going out more recently with friends and revelling in the attention from other men! I get jealous of women who are with really attractive guys! Its not like my boyfriend isnt attractive maybe just not to me anymore. Me and my bf get on well we have a laugh and I'm really close with his family, but I can't bear my bf to touch me anymore we dont have sex cos I dont want to n cos im not bothered by it, not interested. I know looks arnt everything but I really just wanna have fun and mess around with guys im attracted too even with the bad boys i know arnt relatonship material!but despite all of this I dont like the thought of not being with my bf, not spending time with him or doing things together as I dont have many friends its like my bf is my best friend. And breaking up with him may leave me free n single but it also may leave me lonely and bored, please help x
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reader, Teacake  +, writes (19 November 2008):
 This is normal and part of growing up. Young kids grow into adults and your emotional needs become different. You still need to have many more boyfriends before you settle down. Most friendships don't last. Only a few very special people remain friends for life. So, yes, it is very normal to grow in different directions. You both gave each other some very wonderful moments together, but you are young and you both need to have new experiences.
My guess is to not say anything to him and just let nature take its course. You don't have to make an official break up. Just go out with boys you like and if he calls, he calls. Seems nature is taking over and you don't need to talk to him about it unless he asks.
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