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writes: I was with my ex for a few years, and I fell out of love with him. I have got on with his best friend really well since we got together, and this friendship has turned into more, well for me anyway. A few months ago I told him how I felt when we were both quite drunk, and he kissed me, which could of led to more, but I stopped it.The thing is, he is married, however he is very unhappy, his wife is always cheating on him, and she is always putting him down. Anyway, after the kiss, he text me saying he has always felt the same way and he wants us to meet up, but I said it would be a bad idea, we have been texting each other since, sometimes very rude texts. The thing is, I am seriously falling in love with him, and I think he is just after a bit of fun from me. I would never expect anything to seriously happen between us, but I still feel uncomfortable about having a bit of fun what with him having a wife and being my ex's best friend. Every time I see him, I just want to hug / kiss him, and when I don't see him, I can't get him out of my head, but I don't know what to do about it. It is driving me crazy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2006): Please, whatever you do, dont get involved with this man.
I've just been through EXACTLY the same thing and believe me, it hurts when you realise that all you were was a bit of fun, when you have fallen for them, hook, line and sinker.
I was convinced he loved me, wanted to be with me, everyone who saw us together said how in love with me he was. Even after I'd spent the weekend with him, he still continued with the lovey dovey text messages and late night phone calls.
However, one day he just turned round and told me I was nothing to him but a shag. That hurt, boy did that hurt. I'm still getting over it now and it seems to be taking forever.
But I knew what I was getting into and despite being convinced with the love he was showering me, I have no one to blame but myself.
Take it from someone who knows, this is a very bad idea.
Good luck
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (8 November 2006):
 Don't do it, you'll regret it if you do. He will only be using you for sex and that will break your heart. Let him know you don't think it's a good idea to start this up then stop contacting him, and don't respond to him. Stay busy with your life, go out with friends, start a hobby, just anything you can think of to keep busy and your mind off him. You'll feel better about yourself and may find someone who can be exclusively your own. Good luck.
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