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writes: I am really scared of loosing my virginity. Just the fact of it hurting. Does it hurt and how long does it take for the pain to go away and do you bleed after your first time? Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2007): do you think that girls should wait until they are 16 to have sex even though they know they are with the right person?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2006): hi well i lost it last night, so kinda fresh in the mind, i am TERRIBLE with pain and tensed up immediately which just ment he couldn;t get it in, however once i relaxed a bit, got used to the situation for a few minutes it was fine he wasn't esp careful or slow, and it was uncomfortable more than painful, but you dont notice after a minute or so. I noticed the blood when i went to the loo tho, just a few drops, its not painful now so, really not too bad,
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2006): Hi- Firstly if u are very young (like under 17) then i urge u to keep ur virginity until a really special guy comes along: You dont want to sleep with someone then afterwards he doesn't ever call and u realise u have been used. Trust me thats the worst feeling in the world and u don't ever forget the emotional pain. Remember that the first time sets the standards for the next few times- and the way u experience ur first time affects ur feelings about urself and ur attitude towards sex.
Now about the physical side of things: majority of girls do experience slight pain the first time they have sex- but there are things u can do to minimise the pain:
Firstly lubrication is important, you can buy some at a chemist. A condom also helps with lubrication (and duh you have to have safe sex girlfriend). Secondly it's important that u relax when he penetrates u- don't tense ur muscles and legs, thirdly he needs to be very gentle with u: this means thrusting gently and slowly and remember it takes time for the penis to fully penetrate you, so it's a slow process, make sure he doesnt just jam it into u- it'll hurt. Your first time obviously takes a lot longer than normal sex.
Some girls bleed and some dont. But no it's not like torrents of blood running down ur leg- when it's over make ur way to the bathroom and u might see a few spots thats all.
Just enjoy ur first time and remember it's a two-way street so u shopuld BOTH be getting pleasured and focusing on eachothers pleasure rather than just on ur own.
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