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writes:Hi there. I have a problem. I'm 14 and I have liked this boy for a while now and he has said in the past (only a few days ago) he likes me too. The thing is, he has a girlfriend BUT he says he likes me aswell. He flirts with me on msn and webcam ALL the time and keeps saying he likes me. I feel this isn't right because he has a girlfriend (not too serious). The thing is, he spends so much time with me and says the most amazing things to me and I think I'm falling in love with him. I don't want to because he has a girlfriend and everytime he's with her it breaks my heart. Shall I tell him to stop teasing me? Is what he is doing really wrong? Thanks - write back please xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWow thanks guys I didn't expect so many comments! To answer your question, I have met him - I go to school with him. He seems like he likes me at school too. I don't know his girlfriend, I've only spoken to her a fews times. She seems like an ok girl. I can't help feeling jealous though and I hate feeling like that. I know what he is doing is wrong, but I really need to do something about it soon. He keeps telling me he can't stop thinking about me and so on, and now I like him even more. Shall I just tell him to decide what he wants? Thanks again xxxx
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reader, Teacake  +, writes (6 December 2008):
 Have you actually met him in person? Thing is, this is an infatuation which people usually think is love since the emotions are so powerful.
Infatuation or love, unfortunately can not go away just because you want it to! LOL There is no cure other than to enjoy it for what it is and not expect it to be anything more than it is.
This is going to happen to you many times in life. Every human has this problem... infatuation!!!!!!!!!!! These things live in our head mostly and have nothing to do with reality since reality is an actual relationship where two people become one.
If you stop communications on line after a while you will forget about him. Why not meet real life boys? You'll still become infatuated with them too, but on line is all in the head. A fantasy like a movie in your mind.
Think of it like an addiction. His flirtations are like a drug that makes you high!
You have to force yourself to find something other to do in the real world.
If you haven't met him in real life, ask him to meet with you and take it from there. If he can't meet with you, this will go on until it gets boring and you find some other guy.
Good luck sweetie.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhow can i just stop loving him though? how do i do that? can you give me some advice on that please? how do you fall out of love with someone? thanks by the way xxx
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reader, Teacake +, writes (6 December 2008):
He has no idea how it feels to be in your shoes. Even if you tell him he is too young to understand the effect he has on you.
Try to be strong and cut things off. He is too young and immature to have a love relationship anyhow. You are both still children and he enjoys having girls want him. A lot of boys never grow out of that. Protect your heart and realize he is a kid and enjoys having fun with girls. Its not his fault if you enjoy his attention. Actually, its your fault too because it takes two to flirt. Good luck!
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reader, sparkleworks  +, writes (6 December 2008):
 Hi sweetie,
First of all I'd like to say I admire your maturity in "feeling it isn't right", even though you like him so much. You're absolutely right about everything... I'm sure he's a nice boy, but the way he's acting really isn't fair to either you or his girlfriend. If he really does like you then he needs to respect you enough to give you closure. The best you can do is tell him what you think and hope he'll sort it out. I'm sorry to say it but if he doesn't resolve things with the two of you, he probably isn't up to your level of maturity yet (common with boys at that age) and it might be best that you move on. But hopefully that won't be the case :)
Best of luck
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reader, helpmesavethings +, writes (6 December 2008):
 tell him to choose one woman, you, are her.
its that simple that im not even going to write a long answer.
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