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writes:I have a friend who I want to be more than friends with. The problem is, she already has a boyfriend. Her boyfriend is going to school overseas, so she spends a lot more time with me than with her boyfriend. I have told myself that I will tell her how I feel. I am not afraid to lose our friendship because I know that I will not be seeing much of her next year at college anyway unless things between us change. I think that she may have some feelings for me as well but I am not sure. I would like to know if I am a terrible person telling another guy's girlfriend that I have feelings for them. I was also wondering when you think the best time to tell her would be. It tears me up inside to have not told her how I feel yet. This friend is someone I can see myself spending the rest of my life. But, if all else fails, I hope that she is happy. What should I do?
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reader, zeddiebear +, writes (24 January 2008):
Hi,
If you feel as strongly as you do about her tell her. There is no harm in telling her. Other people will say "if you love her let her be with the man she's with" and will tell you not to start any shit... but you both are young. It's not like she's married to the guy. It is still fair game.
Tell her how you feel. Even if her answer is no, after you get over the heart ache, you'll be happy you did it. There is nothing worse than that nagging feeling "was she THE ONE that got away?"
Best of luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2008): i am in the same boat but my best friend doesnt have a gf! we have become best mates over the past 2 years and its so hard to feel the way we do. I know it sounds weird but hey thats life!
I wouldnt tell her because things will get awkard i got drunk and told my best friend and before we used to flirt all the time and everything but now its just mates thing. I was going to post a question like this!
Just be there for her! if she wants you! she will tell you! i know ots not the answer you want but i just answered both of our questions :D Good Luck
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