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writes:Hi all,I am wondering if you can help me? Recently, I have found myself falling for my first cousin,he is ideally everything I could ask for in a man. Im sure he likes me also, as he is just asked me out on a dinner date. Nobody knows about this, especially not our families. I know we are doing nothing wrong in the eyes of the law but Im sure it will tear our families apart. What do I do?Thanks in advance.
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reader, abhimen  +, writes (8 August 2009):
Well,if you love him really then go to any extent even if your families tear apart.Understand that if you are loosing something,on the same time you are gaining something very precious.And if you sacrifice your love for your family then its a silly thing to do bcoz then you'll never be happy in your life.In life if you get only 1 person's love whom you love then it is enough to spend life happily.
I also love my cousin but i don't know that does she feel the same way for me or not,but if i find that she feels the same way then i don't care what my family has to say,i just want to spend my life with her or else in her memories.
So just don't let your love go away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2009): Cousin marriages can be very stable and profitable for both parties. Both set of parents act as very good marriage counselors and keep the pair in line provided they're around. Your parents and his may love this idea since they already know a lot about the guy and can predict fairly accurately how this relationship will turn out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2009): You're just assuming it will tear your families apart. The reality might be totally different to what you might be imagining their reaction to be.
Your cousin might just see you as simply his cousin and nothing else, so firstly you need to establish if he's feeling the same about you as you are about him. No point setting off on the wrong foot!
If he feels the same, speak to your mother about this and see what she has to say about it. You might be pleasantly surprised. Get him to do the same. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
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