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writes:Ok. There's this guy that works at the grocery store near my house that I find constantly looking at me whenever I'm shopping there. I don't know anything about him, but I do know that I find myself extremely attracted to him, and I'm almost positive that he's noticed me as well. The problem is, however, that I am extremely shy when it comes to guys that I'm attracted to. This guy and I haven't gotten any farther than fleeting eye contact, but that is something that I tend to have a real problem with. I get so, so, so extremely nervous when I see him, that I get too scared to do more than look him in the eye once in a while, and that's only if he's standing kind of farther away. It's kind of ridiculous because as soon as I see him I get that swooping feeling in my stomach and my breath kind of catches, and I start getting really nervous. I'm always with my mom when I'm there, so that doesn't help either. I was there by myself on Christmas eve, and I saw him and he was wearing this really adorable elf hat. I was going to say something to him like "nice hat" and give him a smile, but there were so many people there that I lost him.Anyway, I'm sorry this was so long. My question is - Is there anything that I can do to further this thing with him? And is there anything that I can do so that I'm not terrified of embarrassing myself so that I can actually say something or do something? Him and I have been doing this eye contact thing for about four years now, but for about three of those years I was kind of, sort of, dealing with another "crush" situation. I'm 18 (never really had any experience though) and he's probably about my age give or take a year or two.
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reader, venusfurs  +, writes (29 December 2010):
Just talk to him! it seems so hard but you know what, just suck it up and do it girl.. you'll feel so much better. He obviously is attracted to you, just dont do too much all at once, talk to him more and more when you go in. Im not one to give advice though, im in LOVE with a checker @ my grocery store, im 28 but i turn into a 12 year old when i talk to him.
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reader, Gabbystar +, writes (29 December 2010):
Say hi or wave at him to let him know you noticed him. It will lead to a conversation and it won't be nerve racking. Good luck!
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (28 December 2010):
 Start with "Hi". Then "How are you?". Ask him where something is, and tell him your name and that you've seen him around.
Ask him something about himself, like if he's in college at the moment.
Well, maybe don't ask him this all at once, but once you've introduced yourselves, you'll have something to go from so that for the next time you see him, you can say a bit more. And if he's noticed you but is too shy to say anything, he'll probably be grateful that you started talking to him.
As for your mom, you could offer to do the shopping for her.
Good Luck
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