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writes: I keep getting negative thoughts and feeling slightly emotional, allthough I don't cry. It gets worse usually when it gets dark, and i feel no hope and have nothing too look forward too. I am happy around my girlfriend but not so much my family and they have noticed and call me moody.I am not happy with college at the moment, and really don't know what I want too do for a career, could this be the reason? Reply to this Question
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reader, Lilly223  +, writes (9 January 2007):
 It sounds to me like you are depressed. Please see your gp and talk to him/her how you are feeling. Counseling and/or medication maybe in order. You will be surprised at how much better you feel once this dark mood lifts. It will, but not without some effort on your part. Don't make any huge life altering decision, such as leaving school, right now. Talk to your girlfriend about how you are feeling. Try to think of the good things in your life, such as your gf, the fact that you have the opportunity to go to college, a family, etc. Depression happens to the best of us, but it can be helped okay? Please go talk to your gp. It will get better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2007): i feel like that a lot of time and then i realise it always make's me feel a bit down and hopeless because it's like a mental block, it prevents you from getting on with other aspects of your life, it could well be one thing that's making you feel down.
You say "you're happy with your gf", so maybe when you're thinking about your career and studies you feel lonely and you don't with your gf who takes your mind off it, right so maybe all you need is to ask someone else's advice about it, maybe your careers adviser lol, but also someone close who can give you helpful advice.
Don't worry, it is only one aspect of your life it's the sort of thing that always sorts itself out in the end, keep living your life and have fun! xxxx
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (9 January 2007):
 it could be because of it being winter being darker and loosing the supplements from the sun, you can get special lamps for this some vitamin tablets to can help..with me im feeling the same around family and friends only my bf makes me happy (when things are good lol) it could be that you feel you have no sense of direction. youre partner is close to you so you feel happier being with her because she is the only sense of direction you have..try getting some hobbies , not knowing what you want to do or you know what you want to do and cant can have an effect on youre frame of mind i know this because i have only a seasonal job i love doing but i cant do it all the time and it does get me down but my aim is to get a somewhat good job and run my own buisness, its a hard struggle but keep with it hun..
try and find something you enjoy doing try different jobs..is thier anything else on ure mind ? hope this helps xx
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (9 January 2007):
 Everyone needs a purpose in life. A reason to get up in the morning. If what you do isn't working for you, maybe some change is in order.
Consider going to church; getting involved in a charity; doing something to help people less fortunate than yourself. If you need a new perspective on life, this should help.
Putting other people before yourself is the best cure for feeling sorry for yourself.
Good luck!
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reader, ingotblue +, writes (9 January 2007):
 aaah I know this feeling well!
I am 30 years old stuck in a non job with no "useful" qualifications and I feel it mostly at night.
Your girlfriend should be your best friend as well as your partner if you cant talk through things with her who can you talk to?
You have a woman that loves you and is willing to be there for you so that is one blessing.
Keep plugging at college though you might feel disenchanted atleast you will have a qualification that you can do something with.
Try to do some brain storming (yes that thing you used to do at school that looked like an exploded egg) in the centre put "me" from that try to figure out what abilities you have and are strong in and write them down.
When you have done this have a look at jobs and see which one fits your abilities the best,then see what qualifications you need to get ahead in that area and try to work towards it.
The only problem here is trying to make a decision and sticking to it.
You have to be decisive and stick to the decision you have made, saying that do not do something that you arent happy doing.
I dont know about you but even working through something makes me feel more positive because I know I am taking a step in the right direction.
Try to take the steering wheel of your life in both hands and the knowlege that you are atleast beginning to take control and its not running away with you any more, should make you feeel a bit better,
Things arent as bad as they look.
Good luck
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