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30-35,
anonymous
writes:What should i do if me and this guy have been friends for 2 years, we start off dating then we lost contact with each other. Now we have start back talking again. He tells me he loves me but don't share no other feelings. I don't force him to tell me anything. I'm don't know whether to have feelings or don't pay him no mind. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2007): It sounds to me like this young fellow is not ready for a relationship and he is telling you he loves you as a friend most likely if he is not asking you out....I would not ask him where he stands, he will see that as pressure, you can't make someone want the same thing as you do, all you can do is continue to be his friend, and let him know you care about him, but a very big but, you are not going to stop dating other guys and wait on him to make a move.
In fact start dating someone else and let him see it, don't be mean or rude, just let him know he has competition. If he really cares, he will step it up so as not to lose you to some other guy.
In the meantime, don't force yourself to feel one way or another, just proceed with caution and don't put your life on hold for him---big mistake....you are too young in my opinion to be tied down any way. This is the time of your life to date and figure out what you want in a partner, and most importantly who you are and what you are all about....set some goals for yourself and get going, guys like and respect interesting women, not girls waiting to fill a boyfriend position that they have open.
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reader, DV1 +, writes (1 June 2007):
 Don't waste feelings until you know where you two stand. I know that's going to be hard. I've watched my phone and kept my IM account logged in for hopes of hearing from someone. I don't want you to waste yourself away like I did. Go to him, and tell him that you need to know where he stands. If he can't tell you, the only thing that you can do is continue your life.
DV1
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