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writes:Ok i have this close friend that was my gf but she broke up with me for this other guy..... well i stayed freinds with her and eventually she broke up with that guy, and weve been talking a lot recently she told me i should marry her i said ok after a long series of whys she said because she loves me and i would make a good husband etc so i said ok if your for real lets do it, every time we talk she calls me her husband or fiance and says we're going to get married.. But now she has a ton of excuses not to meet, she lives far away from me and she doesnt even want me to come see her... and she just told me she talked to her ex and she told him she was ready for a relationship with him again... so im like ok, im not even mad or anything but i realize i need to have more respect for myself then to let her play games with me like this... she told me she loves me i dont know why but i feel it when she says that i feel like she means it why would she say it f she didnt.. i think she loves the other guy more ... he goes to see her and they have a sexual relationship as well... so why is she stringing me along... and why am i letting her...? well im putting a stop to it I'll be her friend but thats it i dont even want her to say she loves me... cause she cant if she treats me this way... Does any one have some advice thanks
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reader, YouWish +, writes (18 June 2010):
 She is addicted to love for love's sake. She cares for neither you nor her ex. She's stringing both of you along. You're right - the correct question is "Why am I letting her?"
Here's why you're letting her: You stayed friends with your ex after she broke up with you. You waited in the wings for her to break up with her ex. That's mistake number 1. NEVER STAY FRIENDS WITH AN EX. When you end things, end them totally.
So now you have to do what you should have done all along - break it off all the way with her. De-friend her on Myspace and Facebook. Delete her emails, her IM's, her name off of your phone. Throw away all pictures, gifts, and love notes from her. Eradicate her from your life completely.
She will eventually try crawling back to you when she gets all wishy-washy on the ex she's still having sex with and try to worm her way back into your heart and life again. THIS time, turn your heart to stone. You owe her NOTHING, so give her no place in your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2010): She breaks up with you for another guy = forget about anything long term with her.
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii  +, writes (18 June 2010):
 Hey :)
Think you've already got this situation down to a tee. YOU SHOULDN'T BE PUTTING UP WITH THIS. She is obviously playing mind games- and you shouldn't think that this other guy is better, who knows he might be a troll (!). If she can't make her mind up that's her problem NOT yours! And until then just be friends with her, that's obviously all she wants at the moment so work with it, if she starts messing you around again then just tell her you want to know where you stand :)
Good luck:)
SB :) x
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