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*rBrightside90
writes:Hey there,Ive been in this relationship with my girlfriend for 10 months now. But very often im crying, and she does not seem to care, she just keeps hurting my feelings. I must add that I am depressed right now, im trying to seek professional help.Anyway, I cried because i felt very desperate, I often do feel like the worst person on Earth. And then about half an hour later, i called someone a 'pussy', she replied with; You are a pussy too. This did hurt my feelings, so I told her this and all she said was; Yeah you get emotional very soon, so you are kind of a pussy.She knows I am depressed, but she never seems to care. She always tells me; go seek professional help. But on the other hand she does hurt my feelings. And the worst part, she never says sorry. Its always me being wrong.What do you guys think is my girlfriend mentally abusive ?
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reader, sunny123  +, writes (27 April 2009):
It is very difficult for someone without depression to understand what it feels like. The person with depression can also seek to isolate themselves from everybody around them. These two things combined mean that these relationships often don't survive long-term. The key to this is COMMUNICATION. You also MUST seek medical help as you may need medication initially to allow you to get back on track. Once your girlfriend sees that you have done something about this, and aren't just weeping away, she'll respect you a whole lot more. You can hopefully then explain how you feel without getting too emotional.At the end of the day your mental health is the most important thing. Do what is best for YOU!
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reader, summer_love5467  +, writes (27 April 2009):
 my bf treats me the same way
so i feel your pain
you can email me if you want to chat privately
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2009): Well part of being in a relationship also means thinking about what is best for your partner.. selflessness, if you will.
I know you're attached and it's hard, but she ocmplcating your emotions and making you feel bad about something you can't help. You just can't do that to yourself, and by letting her do it to you, you are doing it to yourself.
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reader, MrBrightside90 +, writes (26 April 2009):
MrBrightside90 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys for being so suportive.
I know a relationship is a two way thing, but she claims that she loves me and that she misses me alot when im not around. Its very confusing for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2009): Your girlfriend should be the one person you can stand up to, and talk to.
Maybe if you work on your relationships (particularily with your g/f) and the way that you communicate, you can take small steps to working on your depression.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2009): Being around someone who is depressed is NOT nice. You want to be there for them but it's hard because they are constantly down. Maybe her saying some of these things is because she wants you to help yourself with this depression. She could be frustrated that she can't do anything about it and this is why she is acting like this. Do you want to seek help? If so, tell her you want to overcome this, and you should get professional help. If she loves you she'll be there for you while you do so. If not then maybe it's time to let your girlfriend go.
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reader, MrBrightside90 +, writes (26 April 2009):
MrBrightside90 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIm having a hard time standing up for myself. Certainly when its concerning my girlfriend, I dont know, I dont want to lose her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2009): I wouldn't say abusive.. let's not make a bigger deal of this than it is. But she is probably insensative and/or unsupportive. To be in the condition that you are in, you need full support systems all around you. you cannot get better if there are negative forces working against you discouraging people making you feel wrong about who you are, when you simply cannot help it.
You need to remove negative aspects in your life and surround yourself with positive ones.
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