A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:i have depression and i am struggling to cope. i think i depend on my boyfriend to make me feel better and we always end up arguing because i feel really down about everything and i'm scared that if something better comes along then he'll leave me. i keep asking him not to leave me, but now i fear he is only with me because he's scared i'll do something if he breaks up with me, which i won't, i'm not suicidal or anything,just really insecure and really down about everything, some days i really struggle to get out of bed because i just don't see the point to anything, and i think it's coming between my boyfriend and me because he only stays now if he has been at work (he works late shifts in the pub on my road) he never lets me stay at his, and never wants to do anything with me. i feel like i'm being so selfish, but i can;t help it, he never opens up about how he is feeling, even if i ask him. i just feel like i have trapped him, and i don;t want it to be like this. we've been together for 2 years and it was never like this before.
View related questions:
at work, depressed, insecure, trapped Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2012): Time to let him go and move on with your life and find your own hobbies and things it seems your to insecure for him and things will never work with an insecure person need to focus on yourself so that you can be back to your old self. Take a break from him work on you. You have to love yourself before you can love somebody.
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2012): the best thing you can do is to get help for your depression, on your own, so that you can release your boyfriend from this 'trap' he is in to make you feel better because that is really beyond his power.
It sounds like you need to see a counselor or other mental health professional. depending on the nature of your depression, antidepressants may really help a lot too.
But you have to do this on your own. Your depression is your responsibility to face. Your boyfriend can support you, but that is a secondary role to your recovery. The primary role has to be you working with a mental health professional's guidance.
...............................
|
