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writes:hey, ive got a big problem,my bf an i have been together for about two months. things have been getting me down, and im starting to get abit depressed. because of this, sometimes i may seem abit off, and just lately i haven't been seeing my bf as much. the other night, i was talking to him and he asked if i still wanted to be with him, because i have not spoke to him much lately. i tried to explain to him that i was feeling abit stressed, but he didnt get it, so i told him i have been feeling a bit depressed.after i told him this, he wanted to know why. i don't want to tell anybody why because its very personal. he keeps saying i never tell him anything any more, and that if im not going to tell him why, what other stuff am i going to hide from him. he said if i dont tell him he cant trust me and that we are going to have to break up. he finally said sleep on it and then went.what should i do, i really like him, and i dont want to lose him, plus we are going to the prom together so it could be abit awkward if we arent going out. but i dont want to tell him, plus its like he doesnt trust me anymore anyway, and i dont really want to be with someone who makes me tell him stuff i dont want to say.but then again, we are going out so really i should tell him everything, what should i do please help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your help, i spoke to him, we argued a little but i stood my ground. we finally came to a conclusion that he would have to wait till i was ready to tell him. i hope now he will respect me more, an cant get his on way all the time lol.
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reader, Smiler +, writes (4 June 2006):
 Hey there
Sweetie this is tricky but i will try my best to help you ok, firstly just because you are an item with this guy you don't have to tell him everything about yourself you are quite right to want to keep somethings personal and deal with them in your own way.... noone b/f or other has the right to demand you tell them your inner most thoughts and feelings somethings are personal for a reason... stands up for yourself sweetie tell him that you hae a right to choose between whta you tell him or what you don't he does'nt own you its not the fact that you don't trust this guy its more the fact that if he keeps pushing you to tell him everything he will push you even further away from him so stand firm sweetie don't be told what to do by anyone be your own person with your own mind you make your own decisions ok
Good Luck, I hope my advice was able to help you, let me know how you get on would love to hear from you again weather it be just a chat or more advise i'm always here for you ok....
You Take Care Sweetie
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