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writes:Im 19 years old, Ive suffered from depression all my life. Last year i decided to seek help as it got out of control. I was put on anti-depressants, and went to therapy weekly. I stopped going a couple of months ago. The thing troubling me, I am unable to maintain a steady relationship. Im a mess. I have been in long term relationships for past 4 years. I have been with my current partner for about a year and a half. Even though im happy and love him. I still go crazy and date other guys. At therapy, she told me i do this because im replacing my fathers non existant love. But she had no solutions, just told me not to worry cause im young.But it makes me depressed, im getting a reputation, and i dont even mean for any of this to happen.. i dont even enjoy it, i hate it. How can i stop??? I neeed helpp to stop this :( I juust want to be happy with my boyfriend. Will i ever be able to keep faithful?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2010): You stop by taking resaponsibiluty for your actions and realising only you can stop this despicable behaviour and not your therapist! Take responsibility for your own actions- wakeup!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 June 2010):
Your therapist has helped in some respects in identifying that you are lacking a father figure and that you are searching for male company because of that. What she hasn't said is that right now, the best thing you can do is be single. You really need to spend time alone working in yourself right now. It's lousy not to have a father around, or to have a rubbish parent and it can have a bad effect on people. The effect it has had on you is that right now, you are craving male attention. This is what you need to address, and the only way you can address it is to be single. You may love your boyfriend, but right now he's not the guy for you and I think you would benefit more from being alone to work on yourself. Let him go, and work on your own life.
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