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writes:since xmas i have been seeing my girlfriends best friend behind her back. it started as sex but its started developing into more - we hang out all the time (without anythin happening)i love my girlfriend but she is really possesive and paranoid (long before she had a reason 2 be). im worried about what she might do if i try and end it. if i tell her the truth it will ruin her and her mates friendshipthey are such different ppl that i dont know if i can choose between them. ive been with my girlfriend for 3 years. if i finish things with her mate i might lose her friendship as well. what should i do?
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reader, Iris7124  +, writes (14 January 2009):
 i totally agree with the first poster...i mean u say ur gf is paranoid and possesive cuz long before she had reason to be...look at what ur doing now! she has reason to be. and her so called "best friend"...dude, ur gf needs both of u out of her life. she deserves better than that from both of u and u know that she does. ur gonna break her heart, shes gonna feel betrayed by her "best friend" but in the end she doenst need ppl like both of u in her life. u and her so called "best friend" DO deserve each other. tell her and let her move on to better things.
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reader, shnookims  +, writes (14 January 2009):
 Nice best friend your gf has... You have 3 options.
1.If you decide on your gf and tell the truth, she decides to keep you her so friendship with her so called "best friend" will be ruined. If she chooses to leave you the friendship is still ruined and the "best friend" hates you for choosing your original girl over you.
2. You carry on with your gf as though nothing happended or is happening. Which isn't fair on her or her "best friend" and they carry on with what your gf thinks is this awesome friendship.
3. You leave your gf for her friend in which case the friendship is ruined and she hates you but her best friend doesn't.
You need to way up your options. No one can tell you what to do but personally I'd go for option 3. Your poor gf needs to know what kind of people both you and her "best friend" are. And I think you guys deserve each other. Let your gf go and find someone who's going to be understanding and treat her right.
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