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writes: I dont understand. I have been talking with this guy for a few weeks, he is over every night and we talk every day getting to know eachother. i have a 3 yr old he has a 5 month old. well he says there is now feelings for the baby momma but yesterday he was spending the night and sleeping in the same bed with her. he says the only way he can see his kid is if he stays the night, he says they dont have sex and he dosent want her, but says shes crazy and possessive. he is a really great guy is he into me or do you think hes a no no since hes staying the night with the baby momma? he did have sex with me 2 days ago and i told him i dont want games that if your sleeping with me then you better not be sleeping with anyone else? please comment this is my first person to date since my ex of 4 years left. he spent the night at his exs this is not what i want i dont understand guys.
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (13 November 2006):
 sorry but I see deep shit about this all I think that he's going to far and near to cross the line if he goes on this way it is up to u if u wanna fight this man back but the fight looks long and dangerous talk to him think it over and if u think u're to suffer to much or get depressed move on and find a nwe nice bloke
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reader, mitta  +, writes (13 November 2006):
This guy is weak. I understand that he wants to see his child but please... Sleeping in the same bed with her?! No way! Doesnt she even have a couch he could sleep on? I wouldn't trust him. Any man too weak to say no to sleeping over is weak enough to sleep with her when she wants. If he was a strong trust worthy man he would refuse and take her to court for access. I understand your feeling particularly vulnerable as he is the first person you have dated after coming out of a long term relationship. But he's not the only man out there, Shop around for a while, find the right guy, one you can trust. But if your dead set on this guy put your foot down and dont take any of this bogus crap. Even if she wont let him see his kids in the meantime she cant deny him his paternal rights that hes entitled to by law. He could get access through the courts, plus what self respect does he have letting her do that to him and playing along with it?!
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reader, Babydoe +, writes (13 November 2006):
That's crap because he can always go through the courts and get legal visitation. Don't play the fool. He's probably still sleeping with the ex.
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