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writes:i have just recently split with my partner of two years, i am tryin to follow the advice of friends and relatives to keep busy, get out more, but i just cannot motivate myself, im spending my days either sleeping or constantly waiting for a text from him. i know that may sound bad but i dont even feel as though i want to get over him, i am crying each night as another day passes without hearing from him. I do realise that i have to do something but how can i. he cheated on me then dumped me. i cant help but imagine them together i hate him yet love him i feel ugly and worthless. if i could i would have just got away for a while but that is not possible. does anyone have any advice on what to do...
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reader, fairyfan  +, writes (27 April 2009):
Hi, two years ago I had gone through the same thing you are going through right now. I knew exactly how you feel, and I also knew the process to get healed. It is not going to be easy, but trust me, you certainly not a victim in this broken relationship. These is someone who love you far more deeper than you thought, He is God. As long as you are willing to ask Him to help you to get out of this situation, he will, because He had done the same thing to me. A person made you feet ugly and worthless was not the one you should be with, but God always see you as His precious daughter, and he will listen to your cry and pains, and he will pour out His unconditional love on you. As matter as fact, that is His desires to do that to you. Men's love is not complete, but God's love is.
I am a living witness of how God had healed me. During the time no matter how hard I had tried, I just couldn't get over with it, because I was terribly hurt myself at that time,too.And I knew how tough it must be for you right now.
I am not a religious mania who try to talk you into believing God. I want to share with you because I had experienced God's powerful healing when I hopelssly faced my devastated situation. I would like to walk with you and help you out if you are willing.
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reader, fairyfan +, writes (27 April 2009):
Hi, two years ago I had gone through the same thing you are going through right now. I knew exactly how you feel, and I also knew the process to get healed. It is not going to be easy, but trust me, you certainly not a victim in this broken relationship. These is someone who love you far more deeper than you thought, He is God. As long as you are willing to ask Him to help you to get out of this situation, he will, because He had done the same thing to me. A person made you feet ugly and worthless was not the one you should be with, but God always see you as His precious daughter, and he will listen to your cry and pains, and he will pour out His unconditional love on you. As matter as fact, that is His desires to do that to you. Men's love is not complete, but God's love is.I am a living witness of how God had healed me. During the time no matter how hard I had tried, I just couldn't get over with it, because I was terribly hurt myself at that time,too.And I knew how tough it must be for you right now. I am not a religious mania who try to talk you into believing God. I want to share with you because I had experienced God's powerful healing when I hopelssly faced my devastated situation. I would like to walk with you and help you out if you are willing.
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reader, sheridan +, writes (5 January 2009):
hi the best advice i can give you from a man thats gone thorw it myself is keep busy with friends if ya can and as for thinking you ugly dont cus i bet your not theirs somone out there that loves and respects you alot more take care hun need anymore advise private messege me ok take care of number one ok
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2009): Ooohhhh I am sorry this happened, what a jerk though to cheat and then dump you.....it happens to all of us, really it does.
You have to want to get over him, be thankful that you had a relationship for as long as it was working....you know, not all relationships you have with men are going to last, nor should they.....it may have been a fling that went on for too long, but you learned something about yourself and what you want and don't want in a relationship and him leaving is opening the door to someone who is even better for you.
Decide not to wallow in self pity any longer, it is a decision that you are making to do that. It is ridiculous to feel ugly and worthless, don't let him do that to you. He chose you so he doesn't think that about you and even if he did how dare you base your worth on what you look like? You are so much more than looks, you are beautiful amazing young woman and if you accept that then everyone else will accept that too.
Even if you don't feel like it,,stay busy with things you like to do, get back to who you were before your boyfriend took up your time.....if you feel blue, spend some more time with your family, reconnect with them and you will feel better, they know and love you and accept you for who you are and being around your loved ones will remind you of that as well.
Most of take care of yourself. Get up everyday and get dressed and put your makeup on and fix your hair, excercise and eat right and get some fresh air every day. Be grateful for your good health, your youth, your intelligence, your god (not in this order) and start to focus your attention on helping people in some way....once you make your life have a purpose all else will follow.
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reader, Ed1337 +, writes (5 January 2009):
 I can understand what your going through, sadly the best healer is time and there is nothing much you can do apart from keeping your mind busy.
Your not the only person who has hoped that each day you would get a text from them, asking to get back together because they have made a mistake. It will get better and you will start to realise that perhaps you are better off without them and your now free to live your life and find someone who will treat you right.
It helps to also think about the bad things about your ex, instead of just thinking about all the good things in the relationship.
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