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writes:Hi everybody, I am a 17 year old Bisexual male. I have these two friends, "Stephen" who is my age, and his younger brother "Tyler" who is a few years younger than us. They are both the quiet type and i'm really the only guy they hang out with. Anyway, this is dealing with Tyler. I am absolutely in love with him. It has been going on for a while now, and I am getting to the point where I am desperate to know if he loves me (for sure). Let me start at the beginning. When I first saw him I was hooked. At first it was only lust, but then it developed into love/infatuation. I no longer only like him for his body, rather, I love him for who he is and how I feel when i'm around him. When I am, I feel like I am complete, like when I am with him are the only times I am truly myself. I literally don't go a moment without thinking about him, and this has been going on for about a year now so I know it's not a short term thing. My problem is that I am unsure weather or not he is gay/bi as well. He is not a very straight acting fellow. He is rather small, not an athlete. He dresses fashionably and generally acts feminine. Don't get me wrong, hes isn't a flamer, that would turn me off. But He isn't a tough jock either. I know this is no reason to think he is gay, but it adds to my cause. Ever since we first met I have flirted with him. This is to the point where Stephen defiantly notices and gives me crap and makes fun of me for, but I have been able to play it off as horseplay thus far. I used to make my flirting more "In your face", almost completely fake, like constant butt slapping, hugging, comments and such, but that was before he began reciprocating. I used to think there was no chance I would ever have him, but then he began flirting back with me and I got serious. He began giving me looks, laughing at my dumb jokes, touching me during conversations. Listening to me more intently during conversations. This still sounds just friendly, but it gets better. More recently (last 2 months or so) he has been acting even more like he likes me. When we are sitting close he usually has some contact with me, or makes contact with me as much as possible. We will be sitting at the table doing homework and he will say something to me, and when he does he will put his hand on my arm or shoulder, I have even stroked his hand with my thumb whilst' he was touching me once and he didn't pull away. He also has foot contact with me a lot, almost like footsie, like he will start by touching my foot as if by accident, and then I will reciprocate. It usually ends up with him batting at my foot with his, or I will just rest mine on his. He also gives me lots of hugs. Whenever I leave his house, unless we are in front of his parents he gives me a hug. He even gave me a side hug once when he tole me that dessert was ready 3 We have cuddled a couple of times, several times even on the bed, but only for a short time. And the other day we were watching a video on the computer and I put my head on his shoulder for a second. When I removed it he told me to do it again because it felt "kinda good"... I also get a small butt smack pretty much every time I see him, although I don't return the favor usually as to not scare him off. Now for the things that make me think that hes not gay. He is a Christian, but so am I. I have accepted that God made me the way I am and there is nothing I can do about it, so I live my life as best as I can. He will always disapprove of homosexuality whenever it comes up, but I also do that in order to keep my cover. He is also somewhat of the moral police. Like he will give me (or Stephen) crap when we do something "wrong". He also sometimes is NOT flirty with me and acts "normal", kinda ignoring my advances or telling me to stop. I think this may be because Stephen is present and he doesn't want to blow his cover, but IDK. I'm sorry this was so long. I just had to describe my situation the best I could. I am CRAZY for him and I NEED him... Please LMK what you think.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (9 March 2011):
 Provided that he knows that you're bisexual then yeh, I'd say he's into you.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (9 March 2011):
 I would say from his actions that he is fairly into you as well. Take the plunge and ask him out for a date then you will know one way or the other.
All the best.
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reader, Esifi +, writes (9 March 2011):
I'm not good at relationships but maybe if he knows you're bi tell him that he has been sending mixed messages and you want to know if he knows he has been at all. If he didn't mean to pass yourself off as the care and concerned wise friend of his older bro who is passing down advice on how to not send mixed signals. And exactly how old is Tyler because I know when I was 13, 14, even 15, I sent a lot of messages to older sibs friends that I didn't quite mean . But hopefully he means the signals.
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