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writes:I'm so desperate for money right now, I owe so much out, I've been having thoughts that my only way out is prostitution. I really don't want to do this, is there any way round this? I need money asap and really have no other choice. Is it dangerous to go to a brothel and do it, as opposed to walking to streets?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2007): Well dear if you can live with it I say that you shod try it. I started prostiuting myself when I was in the navy. I was caught with $15,000 cash. I got a dishonorable discharge for the armed forces and then had to explain tomy husband why. I still prostitute to this day, as we need money. My husband is surprisingly very supportive of my profession. But yes it can be dangerous. I have done the escort agency thing and had a body guard but that cost money. I am back to walking the streets and I am very careful who I go with. Oh yeah and never never let a guy talk you into not using a condom. not even for a blowjob.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2007): Hi, I'm another girl from the UK. A single Mum where I've starved for days, given my daughter crap to eat. I've sold my tv etc whatever to not do what you're thinking. I've considered it believe me. Remember it isn't like sex with someone you are attracted to, like, or even find just a nice man...you are told what to do, when to do it and while you may be debt free or near it, you live with the pain, embarrassment and heartache of knowing you sucked off a man, bonked him for nothing but money. They are rough with you. Just go and see the movie Monster with Charlize Theron and see how vunerable you can get yourself into.
Go and see your citizens advice bureau, get a loan from the bank, go and live with a mate/family and give them basic rent, but don't do this game, it is degrading and you will never forget, never. Working in McDonalds and Burger King is less degrading...take it from me.
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reader, Royofthe Rovers +, writes (9 April 2007):
 First thing is first, do you have any other income? If yes, think about getting a loan? Simple. If you are unemployed and totally out of work then get a job. Go down the job centre and get ANY job you can, and then get a loan. Does this money need to be paid back by a particular time? Instead of prostitution why not try escort angencies? They pay very well and nowadays their is a certain amount of security with female agencies. It all depends on how urgent you need this money?
Prositution is not the way. It may be the oldest profession in the world, but think about it. You would be selling YOUR body for sex to total strangers who would pay you as much respect as a fart in a jar. Yes, people do choose to go into this profession, but usually because they dont respect themselves enough. Dont go down that road because afterwards you will regret it I can guarantee that.
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reader, pakishehzada  +, writes (5 April 2007):
If you dont owe any money to the creditors then your pretty much answer your own question, i work at a bank and people come with these problems everyday. One thing you can do is get a cash advance on a credit card. If you dont have a credit card, there are a lot of companies who will happily give you a credit card. With that limit you should be able get cash advance on your credit card. If they deny you to get a cash advance, you should be able to get checks from your credit card company, then you can make it out to your name and deposit it in your account. Once the check clears you can have the money! then slowly pay off the credit card!i hope it works
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to everyone who answered but I must say (I didn't really make it clear before) I don't owe creditors money, it's people I know. The Citzens Advice Bureau can't help me with that!
Thank you though, I think I must find another way, you're right, I would never be able to cope with that.
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reader, crystlay +, writes (4 April 2007):
I dont think this is the best way out of ur debt, u would be putting urself in great danger. i agree with the other answers they r people out there to help. and they r loads to choose from, go online and find someone asap.
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gd luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2007): There are many who consider prostitution a legitimate profession, but they go into it because they want to, not because they are forced. If you are badly in debt, there are debt consolidators, and filing bankruptcy, and other avenues available to help. Dont go into something unless you know ALL consequinces and are free from worry about it.
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (3 April 2007):
 Haven't you seen the TV adverts? 'Call debt matters today' - check www.debtmatters.co.uk
They'll create a payment plan you can afford and then using a little known government legislation, write off up to 75% of the debt you cant afford to pay. Then they'll talk to your creditors and force them to accept the plan. Its that easy.
See, the advert was on so often, I pretty much memorised it:-P check the website, its all free impartial advice and it'll help you get out of the red
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reader, Dagwood  +, writes (3 April 2007):
 Hi anon. Life does not revolve around money. We can all make mistakes managing it and get into debt but trying to get out of debt by getting into prostitution is not a solution. The guilt and stigma will be with you for rest of your life. Declare yourself bankrupt or arrange a deal with your creditors, ask the local citizens advice bureau to help you do this. Bad debt will be very short term and happens to millions of people. Prostitution will bring you quick cash but with loads of problems and the money will be "easy come, easy go". You're worth more than that. I'm not saying this because I have something against prostitutes and I don't want to offend anyone who has been forced into prostitution as a last resort in order to survive but I'm sure if one of the aunts or uncles on askcupid have been into prostitution in their past they would give the same advice. There is another way out. We're all here to support you so stay in touch and take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2007): I agree with both the answers written below. Don't do it!
It's an ugly underbelly of society. It can be a simple straight forward business deal but there's a lot of nasty deranged people out there and there are a lot of dangers involved. It's also something that you have to have a very special mindset about if you are to cope with it. It's not something you want in your past and your memories if you don't have the stomach for it. Call the Citizens Advice Bureau and try to get some other form of help.
That is my first, second and third advice that I'll tote above all others.
However, on the alternative, if you honestly think it's something you can and want to do, if you think you need it and it's something you think you can live with you should try to contact people that are already in the industry. Try looking for escort agencies in your area. Call them up and ask questions. There are some ladies in the business that run escort agencies that have been in the business themselves and know what's what. They'll most of the time care for the ladies that they manage and want to make sure that they're ok. They'll handle the bookings and make the all the arrangements and they'll always know when you're with a client so they'll keep an eye on you and have your back, know, if something goes wrong. They will of course charge a fee for all of this but I think it'd be worth it.
But as I said, look around, talk to people, figure out what it's really like, figure out who's genuine, who you can trust, etc. Do it safe. Don't just jump into it all on your own. Do some research and figure out if it's really what you want.
As I said, I don't recommend it, I wouldn't do it and I don't think you should. It doesn't sound like you're the kind of person that could do it and survive and I don't think your reasons or motives for it are the right ones.
But if you think that you are and you must at least do it intelligently and above all be safe!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2007): i was in a similar situation. The only way forward was to become a prostitute. My ex took me to some areas and acted as a body guard. He was 6'4" and there only if things go tough. Well, they did, he legged it and it got beaten up by other girls! because i had strayed onto their route. Well, it wasn't pleasant. The ex then arranged for a friend of a friend to have sex with me for £200. It was at a friend's house. The bloke was rough, i made sure he wore a condom. He paid my bloke extra £30 to sleep with me all night. I felt like a slave. He wouldn't let me out of the room. My ex was useless, and that was with someone with me!! He had sex with me 5 times that night. I was repeatedly raped! my hair was pulled out. He forced me to have oral sex. I could hardly walk the next day. I was bruised and sore. Never, ever again, no debt is worth it. Go to see Citizens Advice. They will help. please do not go to prostitution.
it nearly killed me. Me and my ex have never ever spoken again. he did hand over all the money when he saw the state that i was in. be careful and aware that you could end up dead, i nearly did. notworth it.
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (3 April 2007):
 My advice would be to steer well clear of the prostitution avenue. I can only forsee that this will lead to a life of upset, with guy's having their wicked way with you. Not to mention the risk of contracting some unwanted virus or disease.
I hope you find another way of sorting your money worries, and don't resort to this degrading life. Maybe do as CD says and call the Citizens Advice Bureau.
All the best of luck x
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reader, Bailey J +, writes (3 April 2007):
 I have been in debt before, no matter how much you owe if you ring them up and tell them that you can only pay this off in monthly instalments. (THEY HAVE TO ACCEPT) If you say that you can only affored to pay £30 off each month on each debt they will have to accept that. It took my 5years to get out of debt but I did it and I didn’t put myself in any danger.
If you need any further advice just send me a message and I will help you and tell you what you need to do.
Don’t put yourself in any danger!!!!
Take Care
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2007): Don't become a prostitute, you'll only live to regret it. Prostitution can lead to diseases and unwanted pregnancies. Get more jobs if you have to or call up places which sort out your debts more easily, just don't turn to prositution.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (3 April 2007):
 Call the citizens advice bureau. They can put you in touch with someone who can help you sort out your debts without having to prostitute yourself.
CD
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