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writes: Hey, my problem is that I like this guy but am not sure what he feels for me. Whether its just curiosity or more! I met him a month ago and he got my number, but we have never been on date, because he hasn't asked me out. We have met on a couple of social gatherings and on two of those occasions we have spent hours talking but we have never kissed even though the both of us wanted to cause of the circumstances. He limits his text messages to me into two and after that, he does not reply until 3-4 days later. I got drunk one night and finally worked up the courage to call him and ask him if he liked me but he was wasted himself and didn't give a clear answer apart from that, he got my number because he wanted to see where it would go! The next time i saw him we ignored each other and he didn't come over to say hi even though he had seen me and neither did I go over to him. He then texted me 2 days afterwards asking if I was going to a particular gig and I said I was't sure and he kept his text messages to two. I saw him at this gig and he was the one who came over and said hi but, one of my friends said that he wasn't intrested in me cause of the way acted with me and he only spoke to me for a few mins and did not introduce us to some of his friends that I did't know. But then today he sent me a text message apologising about the way he acted that night and was inquiring on what I have been up to since we last saw each other and he repeated the same cycle again and only sent me two text messages again. I am confused of his behaviour because whenever we meet he does not act as though we are potential friends nor has he made any move towards making us friends and neither has he made any move for us go out together. Why do you think he keeps on texting me (two messges whenever he does)?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2007): I went thru the same thing. The only difference is that the guy told me he "cared for" me. It broke my heart when I found out that he was only texting me to keep me hanging around. One time he texted me just to make sure that I wasn't dating a friend of his. He would also text me to see if he could get with me when he was bored. My self-esteem was bashed, I couldn't believe a guy would do this, and be so cruel. The truth is, this guy is doing the same thing to you. He saw you talking to a friend of his and he got jealous, not because he wants to be with you, but because he doesn't want you to move on. This jerk is selfish and needs help. Don't let him control your life, delete his number or get a new number so that he can't call you when he is just bored.There are too many a**holes on this planet and I wish I could tell you that it will get better, but it will only get better when you stand up for yourself and tell them to "F*ck off!" I'm in my twenties and no matter what, some males..even older ones, cannot grow up. Don't waste your life on males, they are disappointments anyway. And!! I have a great guy now that calls me everyday just to hear my voice. It will take time, but you will meet a guy that likes you and is proud to show everyone else that he likes you too. Good Luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2006): Hi. I just got done dealing with a guy who did the same to me.It means that the guy has SERIOUS ISSUES.Don't deal with him anymore because he'll only end up breaking your heart.Tell him to seek therapy because HE NEEDS IT!
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reader, smartoldman +, writes (27 November 2005):
You left some vital information. the age of the guy and your age. Maybe he just is not sure what to do or how to approach you to ask you out. Maybe he has had a bab relationship in the past and now he is "girlshy". be bold, ask him out. if he beats around the bush, then you will know he is not into you, and you just need to move on. if he says yes, you need to plan your evening well. don't rush a kiss, just because you think both of you wanted it. good luck
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reader, shania  +, writes (27 November 2005):
 If that was me in that situation i would of died of boredom by now.This fella is playing games with you,he knows you are keen on him but he still doesnt do anything about it.I would cut my losses and tell him to take a hike! He texts you when he feels like it,hoping that when he snaps his fingers,you will come running.Dont waste any more time on this boy.Go out and have fun while your still young.Enjoy meeting other people who want to get to know you.Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2005): If they dont speak to you like you think they should they may not be the one for you no matter how much you make your self believe you have to face reality drop it for you hurt yourself somepeople are jerks but I feel you i've there
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